My best friend is pregnant, how can I help?

My absolute best friend found out she was pregnant by a man who is everything she DOES NOT want in a partner(he isn’t abusive), but before she got pregnant with said mans child, she was with a guy she adored, and he loved her too. She was doing some shady things, so she decided to call it quits with this guy and she was hoping to get her head straight and then maybe work things out with him, she then found out she was pregnant and is now totally depressed, even more, confused and has no idea what to do. She hasn’t even told her mother yet and hasn’t been to the doctor. I’ve tried telling her I would take her. I’ve tried telling her everything! I have given my best advice, but guys I’m out of advice. I believe it’s time to tell her mom, get to the doctor and get rid of some of this stress, but she’s stubborn and wants to do things on her own timing. So, I’m just looking for some things that I could do for her, what else can I say to her, what can I do to help? (She is only 18 & her family is pretty judgmental)

105 thoughts on “My best friend is pregnant, how can I help?”

    1. 2+

      Bringing an innocent human being into an abusive relationship shouldn’t be considered “karma”. Also, she’s only 18 and it doesn’t say she was exclusive with the other guy.

  1. 3+

    Just keep letting her know you are there and supportive no matter what she decides to do. it sounds like she is going to need you. Does the good guy know shes pregnant? Would he step up?

  2. 4+

    Sounds like she just needs some support no judgment no advice. Just someone to sit with her so she doesn’t feel all alone. Her whole world has been changed at this point she is trying to deal with a ton of changes that are going to happen. Just be there with her for that

  3. 3+

    Well now she is stuck with guy #2 for a lifetime. If guy #1 is a nice guy then hes probably now going to stay out of the picture. This is one of those situations where actions have consequences. 18 is an adult so just be there if she needs to talk.

    1. 1+

      Jeana Layton Baxter well, she’s not necessarily stuck with guy #2 for life and guy #1 may have other opinions about the situation. Plus, she’s 18 so the odds that #1 was the guy she would marry are very slim regardless of anything else.

    2. 1+

      Emily Wittkamp Clendaniel Im not talking marriage but she’s pregnant by #2 hes the father and will always be the bio father of that child. LIFE long connection barring adoption.

    1. 8+

      Rebekah Johnson I’m not for all the sympathetic BS. She knew what she was doing having unprotected sex…. that’s a huge problem with society today; lack of responsibility and accountability….

  4. 1+

    All you can do is be there for her. You can’t force her to do anything or tell anyone, trying to force her will just make everything worse. Sounds to me like the best thing you can do is step back, understand this isn’t about you and let her come to you when she’s ready.

  5. 14+

    Sounds like her karma was handed to her in the form of a baby. She can be depressed all she wants but she played a game by being shady and now needs to be a grown up, go to the doctors, tell her family and get ready to be a mom. She doesn’t need to be coddled. She needs to hear the straight truth because it’s not all about her anymore.

    1. 5+

      great answer lmao and yes it definitely is.. Unless you never have sex at all, everytime you have sex there is ALWAYS a risk for pregnancy. So. Because she was horny, instead of handling it herself, she went and screwed someone she didnt even like, and now has the karma of being pregnant.

    2. 0

      Becca Russell then move along. What point are you trying to prove other than looking like a bitch with no empathy? Is that really the example you want to teach for your own children? This world doesn’t need another bully in it.

  6. 2+

    SHE HAS A HUMAN BEING GROWING AND LIVING INSIDE HER ????
    I would Warn her about Birth defects without prenatal care, if she’s not getting medical care or seeing a doctor.
    Buy her a bottle of Prenatals for Right now until she is prescribed Prenatals. AND Express to the Doctor that she’s really Depressed/scared.
    She definitely should REVEAL the Pregnancy to her family, in a cute way. Invite her to LIKE various Pregnancy FB pages.

  7. 2+

    SHE HAS A HUMAN BEING GROWING AND LIVING INSIDE HER ????
    I would Warn her about Birth defects without prenatal care, if she’s not getting medical care or seeing a doctor.
    Buy her a bottle of Prenatals for Right now until she is prescribed Prenatals. AND Express to the Doctor that she’s really Depressed/scared.
    She definitely should REVEAL the Pregnancy to her family, in a cute way. Invite her to LIKE various Pregnancy FB pages.

  8. 2+

    SHE HAS A HUMAN BEING GROWING AND LIVING INSIDE HER ????
    I would Warn her about Birth defects without prenatal care, if she’s not getting medical care or seeing a doctor.
    Buy her a bottle of Prenatals for Right now until she is prescribed Prenatals. AND Express to the Doctor that she’s really Depressed/scared.
    She definitely should REVEAL the Pregnancy to her family, in a cute way. Invite her to LIKE various Pregnancy FB pages.

    1. 1+

      FElicia VAlencia I didn’t know I was pregnant for 5 months with my oldest when I was 16 didn’t take prenatal until a month a later after finding out and she’s perfectly fine and healthy

  9. 8+

    Okay so here is my best advice I am 20…. my stituation… I was with a girl who I adored and would have given to world to because she was ashamed of me and her parents didn’t like me I left her… I got with my current man and sons father not the best combination he was 21 I was 17 I turned 18 went to see the world with him he has a good job…. I got pregnant…. I was not ready at all but my mom gave me the choice to keep my son or to terminate or adoption. I had support in my choice because he was going to be my responsibility….. ask her does she want to keep the baby their is other options adoption and to terminate…. everybody has their own opinion on the matter but it’s not our baby to raise and it’s not my life nor yours it’s hers… she is 18 and young and it’s something to consider give her time you don’t have to see an obgyn till around 12 weeks then she should go. Give her time to process being so young and having a baby with a man you don’t love is hard I’m speaking from experience.

  10. 6+

    Just let her know your there for her and she has options! She needs to be a grown women and deal with it! Because this is no longer about her or her love life its about the life that is growing inside of her! If she doesnt decide to keep the baby she needs to go to the doctors now and not wait for the baby to develop any more! Earlier the better and if she decides to keep the baby she needs to get the best medical care possible!

    1. 2+

      Everyone has their opinions on abortion but it’s not our bodies and not our life! But I do think once you find out your pregnant you should make a choice as quick as possible!

  11. 2+

    No matter what she decided to do just continue to be there for her and let her know that she has options and no matter what you will be there for her. That will mean more than anything to her. That no matter what she decided (to keep it, adoption, abortion, whatever) she will have someone on her side.

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