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QUESTION:
“Need help! I’m trying to co-parent with my daughter’s dad (he just came into her life after three years) due to my ex blocking him on everything, and we had no contact, but my daughter and her dad have been spending time since November. I’m trying to find a balance and keep it 50/50. She’s about to start daycare as well so just trying to have a balanced schedule. Need help thanks.”
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“I do a 2-2-3 schedule. He is with me 2 days, dad 2 days and then alternate weekends and our son is almost 4. It works for us. But everyone that coparents and every kid is different. I know people that do a week on and a week off. They have schedules you can look at online.”
“If you want it 50/50 then split time 50/50. Pick a set number of days that she spends with one parent then spends the same amount with the other.”
“My son goes to his dads wed and comes home Monday and stays with me until the following wed. We live 5 hours apart and that’s as close to 50/50 with his work schedule that we can get. Been doing this for over 4 years now.”
“We do Sunday through Sunday but on his week I get our son Thursday overnight and on my week he gets our son Thursday overnight.”
“We do a week with momma & a week with dad. We coparent well enough to give him back for parties ect even if it’s not our weekend. We rotate big holidays.”
“Sunday to Sunday and we split half days on holidays and birthday.”
“We do a 2-2-3 schedule, that alternates the weekends and love it. Our kids do great as well. I like it that way because I feel like our kids change quite a bit in a week and being away that long just wasn’t what I liked or my children’s dads. Different things work for different people though! Just an idea.”
“Depending on the age of your daughter, my son was around 7 when his father an i split. We did week on week off rotating ever Monday (daycare drop off an pick up) but each Wednesday the child would spend the night with the opposite parent who was on the off week to to break it up an not have the child go a full 7 days. It worked great for our split family.”
“Me and my ex have 50/50. I have them Sunday through Wednesday and every other Thursday. It works perfectly for our work schedules and we both get the same time.”
“Our son is 9. After 8 years of doing this. We don’t have a schedule. It works best for us flipping houses on our son’s terms. Generally, he spends 4-5 days a week with me. Never goes more than 3 days without seeing [the] other parent. School week he sleeps at my house, otherwise, he had rough days at school. Set schedule made for horrible transition between houses. Dad [and] I have a pretty solid co-parenting relationship tho. Kid comes 1st always.”
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