Advice

Featuring parenting and relationship questions (and answers!) from our community of real moms, this content features advice on a wide range of important topics. For the best advice from real moms, this is where you want to be.

Is It Normal That My 9-Year-Old Still Believes in Santa?

Is It Normal That My 9-Year-Old Still Believes in Santa?

A mom writes in asking for advice about Santa Claus. She says her 9-year-old son, who will be 10 in December, still believes in Santa. This mom knows that some of his friends already know “the truth” about Santa, and she is wondering if she has a duty to get him up to speed. She doesn’t want her son to get made of by his friends or others if they find out he still believes at this age. Additionally, she worries that when he does find out about Santa, he would be upset with her for hiding the truth from him. Should she let the magic stay alive or think about telling him?

My Mother-in-Law Is All Up in My Business to an Uncomfortable Degree: How Can I Politely Get Her To Back Off?

My Mother-in-Law Is All Up in My Business to an Uncomfortable Degree: How Can I Politely Get Her To Back Off?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. She says that her MIL is all up in her business in a way that feels very inappropriate. This MIL makes critical, insulting comments about her daughter-in-law’s house and mothering skills. She has told this mom that it is her responsibility to sexually satisfy her husband (aka the MIL’s son). She has pestered this mom about having more children. This mom doesn’t want to end the relationship with her mother-in-law, but she does need a change. How can she talk to her in a polite, productive way?

My Husband and I Are On the Fence About Letting Our Child Have a TV in Their Room: Thoughts?

My Husband and I Are On the Fence About Letting Our Child Have a TV in Their Room: Thoughts?

A mom writes in asking for advice about televisions. She says she and her husband are considering, at the request of their 8-year-old daughter, putting a TV in her room. Though she is considering it, she is definitely not sure. She is concerned her daughter may end up watching too much TV and that screentime can’t be monitored as well. What are other moms’ thoughts on putting TVs in kids’ rooms?

My Grandson Needs Glasses, But His Father Refuses to Allow It To Happen: Advice?

My Grandson Needs Glasses, But His Father Refuses to Allow It To Happen: Advice?

A grandma writes in asking for advice about her grandson, who needs glasses. She says her 3-year-old grandson needs glasses, but that his father — this grandma’s son-in-law — refuses to let him get glasses. She adds that this is not necessarily about vanity; her son-in-law worries that his son will be bullied for wearing glasses as he gets older. But the fact of the matter is, his son, who has been diagnosed as far-sighted, probably needs them.

I'm Conflicted About When to Introduce My Kids to My New Love Interest: Advice?

I’m Conflicted About When to Introduce My Kids to My New Love Interest: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about introducing her kids to a potential new love interest of hers. This mom, who is currently in the process of finalizing her divorce from her children’s’ father, is wondering if it is too soon to introduce her kids to a new man. She has known this man for a long time and has been circling a new relationship with him for several months. She wants him to meet her children, but he thinks it is too soon; he says he would rather wait until her divorce is finalized. But this mom anticipates it may be another year before the divorce is final, and she wants to know how her kids and the new man will get along. What’s the best bet?

My Boyfriend Called His Ex to Vent After an Argument with Me: Am I Wrong or Is That Inappropriate?

My Boyfriend Called His Ex to Vent After an Argument with Me: Am I Wrong or Is That Inappropriate?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her boyfriend. She says she just moved in with her boyfriend, and they had their first blowout argument. She later came to learn that, after their fight, he called his ex-wife, with whom he shares children, to vent about the argument. This mom is highly uncomfortable with this revelation, and not because she’s jealous. In fact, she really likes his ex-wife. She just feels that some things in a relationship should not be aired publicly in such a fashion. Is she wrong? Was it wrong of her boyfriend to vent to his ex?

My In-Laws Are Verbally and Emotionally Abusive Towards Me, and My Husband Isn't Helping: Advice?

My In-Laws Are Verbally and Emotionally Abusive Towards Me, and My Husband Isn’t Helping: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her in-laws. She says her husband’s family is constantly insulting and criticizing her. They told her she was lazy for sitting on the couch just two weeks after giving birth. They called her names. Her mother-in-law even told her to make a will because if she didn’t, the mother-in-law would fight this mom’s parents for custody of the kids in the event of her death. She adds that her husband refuses to help and has even told her that if she says anything negative about his family, he doesn’t see their marriage working. What should she do?

My Daughter Doesn't Want to Accept That She Has Started Her Period: How Can I Help Her?

My Daughter Doesn’t Want to Accept That She Has Started Her Period: How Can I Help Her?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter starting her period. She says her daughter recently began menstruating but has gone out of her way to hide and ignore this fact. She hides tissues in her room and in the bathroom. She is not using feminine hygiene products and is ruining clothing. This mom has tried talking to her, making products easily accessible for her daughter, punishment, and more, but nothing seems to be making a difference. How can she help her daughter during this major milestone?

How Do You Know When It's Time to Walk Away From an Unsatisfying Marriage (Despite Big Objections from Family)?

How Do You Know When It’s Time to Walk Away From an Unsatisfying Marriage (Despite Big Objections from Family)?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her marriage. She wants to know how she might know it is time to walk away from a marriage she finds unsatisfying. This mom and her husband have four children. Her husband works nights, and therefore sleeps during the day. Though she thinks he is a good dad, she finds herself taking care of the kids on her own due to his schedule. She says she also does not love him anymore. They have tried couples therapy and other solutions, but she feels she may be ready to walk away. But complicating factors include a lack of her own resources and an unsupportive family.

What's An Appropriate Age for My Daughter to Start Shaving Her Legs?

What’s An Appropriate Age for My Daughter to Start Shaving Her Legs?

A mom writes in asking for advice about what the appropriate age is for girls to start shaving their legs. This mom has a 9-year-old daughter who “is a competitive gymnast” and is also “very hairy.” Her daughter has expressed interest in shaving her legs. This mom can’t remember when her own mother taught her to shave her legs, but she wonders: what is a “normal” age for this milestone?

Our Dog Has Become Aggressive Towards My Daughter and Me, and It's Tearing Our Family Apart: Advice?

Our Dog Has Become Aggressive Towards My Daughter and Me, and It’s Tearing Our Family Apart: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her family’s dog. She says her family’s French Bulldog has become aggressive towards her and her 7-year-old to the point where she no longer wants the dog in the house. This mom, who is currently 35 weeks pregnant and worried about the dog with the new baby, has tried to voice her concerns to her husband, but he doesn’t seem to see the issue as a serious threat. In fact, he has a strong bond with the dog and ultimately “spends more time with [the dog] than with us or our daughter.” What should this mom do about her dog and her family?

How Should I Punish My Two Teenagers Who Snuck Out of the House?

How Should I Punish My Two Teenagers Who Snuck Out of the House?

A mom writes in asking for advice about how best to discipline/punish her teenage daughters. This mom says that the day finally came, and her two teenagers, aged 13 and 15, snuck out of the house at night. Though this mom is understanding — she remembers her own teenage misdeeds and mistakes — she does want to lay down some productive discipline to help teach her daughters about consequences. So what’s a fair punishment for teens who snuck out of the house?

My In-Laws Don't Like the Baby Name I Picked Out and Said They'd Make Fun of It: Advice?

My In-Laws Don’t Like the Baby Name I Picked Out and Said They’d Make Fun of It: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about baby names. She says that she has a baby name picked out for her baby boy, but her in-laws dislike the name. In fact, her in-laws told her that if she ends up going with her choice of baby name, they will make fun of it. They then offered up their own list of names for her to consider, all of which she doesn’t care for. Even though her husband has “set them straight,” she feels upset by the situation and is looking for support and advice.

My Husband Grounded Our 6-Year-Old for an Entire Month: Am I Wrong or Is That Too Harsh a Punishment?

My Husband Grounded Our 6-Year-Old for an Entire Month: Am I Wrong or Is That Too Harsh a Punishment?

A mom writes in asking for advice about discipline and punishment. This mom, who is currently deployed, said her husband grounded their 6-year-old daughter for the rest of the month because she watched YouTube videos behind his back, despite being told not to do so. While this mom agrees they should punish their daughter, she wanted to ground their daughter for just six days. She feels that her husband grounding their daughter for a month is too harsh for someone her age. Is she wrong?

I Want My 18-Year-Old Daughter to Move Out of My House: How Can I Make That Happen?

I Want My 18-Year-Old Daughter to Move Out of My House: How Can I Make That Happen?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her 18-year-old daughter. She says her daughter, who is 18 and will be 19 next month, still lives at home despite having graduated from high school. Unfortunately, her daughter’s presence in the house causes fights amongst her other children. This mom feels it is time for her daughter to move out, but she is unsure if her daughter is mature enough to actually do so. Though the daughter has a job, it doesn’t pay well, so there is a financial concern as well.

I Found Out My Ex Has Been Giving Our Kids Melatonin Before Bed, and I'm Not OK With It: Advice?

I Found Out My Ex Has Been Giving Our Kids Melatonin Before Bed, and I’m Not OK With It: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex and children’s father giving their kids melatonin without her permission. This mom says that she learned from her children that her ex, their father, and his girlfriend gave them dissolvable melatonin before bed while they were on a camping trip. This mom says that her kids don’t have and have never had sleeping issues, so she can’t think of why they were given melatonin. Ultimately, she says she is not ok with this and turns to the community for advice.