One user is asking Reddit if they are the a****** for not allowing their nephew to come over to their house after school.
“My nephew is 14. He lives with my brother, his dad, his stepmom, his stepbrother who is 11 and his half sister who is 2. My brother’s first wife died 5 years ago. My brother remarried last year but has been with my current SIL for the last three years,” the OP (Original Poster) began.
“My nephew gets along really well with my 13-year-old son and 15-year-old daughter and they hang out together a lot at my house. My brother never minded before. But recently decided that since my nephew doesn’t consider his [stepbrother] and half-sister his siblings, that more time needs to be put into them spending together so and he wanted me to be the bad guy and tell my nephew he’s no longer welcome after school.”
But the OP was not about to break the news to his nephew as he loved having him over to his house.
“I told my brother I wasn’t going to take the blame and he needs to talk to nephew if he wants to make things work. My brother said it would be better coming from me but I didn’t go along with it. So my brother told him I had said he wasn’t welcome anymore.”
“Nephew came to me and I was honest. That his dad wants him to spend more time with his stepbrother and half-sister (these are the terms my nephew uses) and so has decided he shouldn’t spend time at my house anymore. My nephew is p***** at his dad and told him taking away the people he wants to spend time with isn’t going to make him want the other two more than he does. He said he’s not going to run to bond with them because he doesn’t have his cousins, he’ll just do other stuff.”
The user continued, saying: “My brother is annoyed that I told my nephew the truth. He said I had no right to undermine him and hurt their relationship by making nephew dislike him. I told him he did it himself. But when he said it wasn’t my place something stuck. AITA?”
Despite enjoying having his nephew over to his house, he was worried he did the wrong thing.
To which one user replied:” NTA – for years you have been a place that your nephew was loved, wanted and accepted. Your brother wanted to take that away from him, and force him to bond with the other kids. All it would have done is make your nephew feel unwanted. Good on you for being the adult and telling him the truth.”
Followed by: “Instead of taking the time to take his kids out on trips where they could bond, or make activities like game nights, movie nights, etc, he decides to force them together by removing other locations his son could be at so that he’s forced to bond with his siblings. Not only is he the AH, he, at least in this one instance that we know, sound like he either doesn’t understand how people bond or he’s just lazy.”
Do you think it was right of the dad to ask his son to not go over to his uncle’s house?
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