A single woman that I do not know is making plans with my husband: Should I be concerned?

Does anyone think it’s suspicious that a single woman(that I don’t know and have never met) is making plans(2 hours away) with my husband? It’s to participate in an obstacle course race. Now last year, I asked him to do one with me, but when the time came, I wasn’t ready(still recovering from giving birth). But I just have a very bad feeling about this; I don’t think it’s appropriate. I had caught him being unfaithful in the past(before we were married), and we are trying really hard to get past this, but I am not comfortable with this. He constantly tells me I am paranoid, and I need to stop living in the past, but he fucked me up so badly it’s hard to forget. (he was messaging on Instagram while I was in labor!) Needless to say, I was crushed and was a huge factor in my PPD. Now he says he can never do anything with his friends because I will make a big deal out of it, but he never asks me to go out. He just assumes. So now that he brought this activity up, I don’t know how to react. If it was with his guy friends, I wouldn’t mind at all. Am I wrong?

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If its yellow and quacks its probably a duck. Trust your gut

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two words. red. flag. If he’s cheated in the past the likelihood of him cheating now is quite high. I’d say different if he never had, but he has.

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I always say can’t stress this enougth listen to ur gut instinct it’s never wrong,

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He has a history and history repeats itself!

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Suspicious “race” with a single chick… too many red flags… and it’s 2 hours away

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I don’t think your wrong I’d be pissed if my husband made plans with another girl. Specially if he didn’t even talk to me about making plans with her first. And being unfaithful puts a lot of strain on that situation also.

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I think messaging on Instagram while in labor would have me angry af , I would give it a big fat NO :unamused:

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Ask him if he minds if you go along to watch him race.if he gets defensive and demands you stay home then you have your answer

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Check to see if there is even a race there and see if either have registered…and if not…well…then u got an answer

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Yea that is a big NO he would not even be thinking of doing anything with another woman if he was my husband. Girl ditch that man

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Outta be helping out with the baby and not leaving you behind to go run an obstacle course with his side chick :thinking: Ask to tag along, if he gets mad, there’s your answer

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If it’s his sister, fine. Some rando you don’t know… nope.

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Go along stay in the hotel with him cheer him on and discourage her

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Wth? No freaking way. Go get your hair and nails done a new outfit and an attorney

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Uh, no. This is totally weird and inappropriate.

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I would not like it AT ALL. Plus, if he cheated before, of course you are going to be even more paranoid. I would be too. I would be upset if he followed through with it. He should stick to his guy friends, not other single females.

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Trust your gut. Something is up. If you’re not invited or plans don’t include you, it’s because you don’t fit in bed with them. Js

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No it is inappropriate and I would not let this go. Talk to him again and tell him how you feel. A man should never put himself in a position when married or committed to cheat or let something happen. It sounds like maybe he is thinking about it or has already done something.

I would ask to go with. ^.^ Say you’d love to watch and meet his friend. Then you can see how they act around each other and see any red flags.

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