I was wondering if anyone has any information on adoption… Backstory. I have three kids, two biological, and in the process of adopting my stepson. My youngest two are 7month apart. I just found out I’m pregnant, and my husband and I agreed to look into adoption, but I am terrified. I can tell he doesn’t want to give the baby up, and neither do I, but a part of me doesn’t think we can give her the life she deserves. I love all my babies, and this is incredibly stressful. We just moved to a completely new state, no one other than my husband knows I’m pregnant, I became a stay at home mom to work one on one with our three kids, and it’s all just scary to me. Before this, I never left my home state. He knows I’m scared. I know he’s scared. Just looking for advice, I guess? I feel like a terrible mother, but I honestly don’t know if I could handle 4… I just want her to have the best life possible and to be loved. Thank you in advance for your time and comments.
I am adopted and it was the best choice my bio mom did. I have always wanted to adopt.
I would take that baby in a heartbeat. But it’s a lot more complicated than that.
I am so sorry you have found yourself in this situation. All the best guys!
I have a friend who did adoption when we were young, she did an open adoption he adores his Auntie and she always tells people she is happy she did it, but she didn’t have other kids already or had any since so I’d say take some time and really think about it do what is best for all involved
Extremely selfless of you. Just know an open adoption isn’t always what it’s portrayed to be. Research and pick your family very carefully.
Those first few week hormones are so awful. They make question everything and anything.
My advice would be if you or your husband have any doubt, don’t do it.
Keep her. It’s the best decision you’ll ever make. If it was your only child then maybe consider it but not in this case. There will be so many unanswered questions down the road.
I was in the same situation. Pregnant with baby number 5 during nursing school and didn’t know how I was going to handle everything. I’d like to think my good karma came back around because everything just fell into place and I’m snuggling my little five month old right now
If adoption is what’s truly in your heart, then it’s a valiant thing to do for someone. But if you’re not sure, know that you CAN make it work. Whatever you decide, that little baby will be so loved
If your husband doesn’t want to, then keep the baby. He is just as scared and stressed out, but it will work out. Look into cloth diapers and couponing.
I’m currently pregnant and seeking a family to adopt this baby.
Kids are scary in general! U R NOT A TERRIBLE MOM! The fact that u worry makes u a GREAT mom! Have faith in ur decisions u will make the right one for ur family sending u much love♥️
I placed my first and am here if you need support. But I’d say don’t make a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Look for resources to help you parent if possible. And don’t let anyone influence you either way. Do research And see a counselor
I raised.4.its.really no different than three
What’s one more mouth…
Adopted kids have abandonment issues, I know cuz I do…
You can do it mama. It may not be easy but it will be worth it. Keep your baby
If you already have kids you will find a way for this child too. I am adopted and was blessed by being adopted by great Christian parents, but that child will always wonder why, especially knowing their are other siblings you chose to keep
How can you adopt your step son while putting your baby up for adoption
I have been going through Gentle Care for the process of my current pregnancy - they have answered all the questions about the adoption and the process. But I still haven’t made up my mind.
I gave up a little girl 4 years ago in March I was terrified I didn’t find out till I was 6 months along but I was in a similar situation me and my 2 boys were staying at my moms cause me and my husband had split up for a while and I ended up pregnant and then we got back together but I knew I couldn’t take care if another little one at the time like I said me and the boys were at my moms, I talked to my dr and they knew a family looking to adopt I met with their lawyer and went from there I never even seen her cause I knew if I did I wouldn’t be able to go through with it and now as time I passed I knew I done the right thing, it’s a brave and selfless act don’t let anyone make you feel bad about the decision you make I hope this helps a little, God Bless You