Advice on handling family about my son being gay?

I think my 12-year-old son is gay. He has never really come out and said it, but it’s just a feeling I have as a mother. I am completely fine with this if he does decide to tell me on his own terms. But my family, however, would not be very accepting. They are all huge Christians, and I don’t want my son to feel some type of way. How can I prepare myself to handle my family if my son is gay? I am honestly 99% sure he is by little comments he has made, so I just wanna make sure I support him 100% when the time comes that he decides to tell me. Advice?

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Whether he is or not your an awesome mom for accepting him and doing what you can yo ease the hurt of others who may not.

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Treat him as your son as for your family if they cannot love him for who he is then it’s their loss

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Hugs to you both. You’ll be fine, mama.

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Just support him :100: that’s all matters. . . If some families are not accepted the way he is then they can go hell neways

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You start by letting them know that your support is with your child and if any of them have anything negative to say about it, they can leave your life. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Tell your family whatever year it is and get over it or dont speak about because no matter what it isn’t there business to speak on . And support him 100%

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As long as he has his mom he will be okay. I can not Express how important it is to have a parent who’s got your back.

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Don’t tell them anything it’s not their business if they don’t like it it’s their problem and if they have anything derogatory to say about your son tell them they are not welcome at your home again. Xx

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Support him. Fk your family if they cant. End of story.

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Just love him no matter what :heartpulse:

Give him lots of support and I would cut off anyone who has a problem with it and won’t respect it.

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Tell them to worry about their own kids, he has all the support he needs from someone whose opinion matters

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First off, let me address that you are a badass momma.
Second, I’m sure he knows the stigma that comes with being gay already. It’s very known, prolly why he hasnt said anything himself. He maybe trying to get you to ask him about it if hes making little hints. Just tell him to be prepared for their reactions or comments and know that all that matter is if he loves himself and that you love him too.

You can’t control the reactions of your family. All you can do is make sure he knows his mum loves him and has his back 100%.

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I know that sounds rough but it’s almost 2020 and it’s really hard for gay and lesbian kids to come out I’m glad you support him 100 percent. Stay strong for him and always I mean always be there to listen when he needs to talk

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Tell them he’s your son and as a Christian it is their responsibility to love him too. If they can’t then don’t be around them.

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I’d say first of all, just stick by and support your son no matter who he chooses to love. Make sure he knows that you will NEVER stop loving and supporting him. You can’t force everyone to accept everything about him but I how they would at least have respect and still love him. If I was in your shoes I would have a hard time having a relationship with people, even if it was family, who made my child feel less than.

Also PLEEEASEE don’t tell out him before he’s ready (if he’s even gay)… Just make sure he knows he can come to you for anything without judgment. Lots of love to you momma!

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Don’t tell them anything! It’s up to him if he ever wants to come out to family, otherwise it is not their business.

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Just make sure he knows he’s in a safe place with you, and that you love him unconditionally. If he talks about it with you, remind him not all people are kind and accepting. I wouldn’t tell him to expect anything one way or another from your family until you know how it’ll go for sure. Be there for him :purple_heart:

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