Am I being overly sensitive?

I split from my husband almost 2 years ago now. He had 3 kids from a previous marriage that their mother wasn’t involved with at all. His youngest didn’t remember her at all, actually. The youngest is now 13 and hasn’t come over to my house to visit in a year. She has repeatedly said she’d “rather stay home” than come over each time I ask For the entire year! I only see her in passing when picking up my son from their dad. A few days ago, she sent me a link to an expensive gift she wants for Christmas, and I’m torn. I can’t really afford it, but I’m also frustrated, and feeling used that she only really talks to me now that Christmas is coming. Am I too sensitive? I know she’s a child, but I just feel so used.

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I don’t think you are if she only going to talk to you because of the holiday season you shouldn’t get her a expensive gift

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I wouldn’t do it I’m saying BC my boyfriend daughter only talks to him if she wants something and I said no I put my foot down it took about a year but she now talks to him daily

Nope… and I wouldn’t get the gift she wanted. Maybe a personalized keepsake… it will show her you love her and are thinking about her…and teach her that she can’t use people to get expensive gifts…at least not from you.

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usually kids that age don’t really see it like that. But then again I don’t know her. I wouldn’t get her the expensive gift.

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She isn’t a child she is a manipulative teenager. Don’t fall for it! Take care of you and your baby.

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She’s not a child and you’re not obligated to get it for her because she thinks you will

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Don’t do it. She’s using you & playing your emotions.

i agree with Chance Heath she’s being a manipulative teenager and very aware of what she is doing. i would just take care of you and your baby. the most littlest gift should matter if you did get her one.

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No chance am i getting the gift.

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Kids don’t need expensive gifts just remember that. now if you bought the other kids gifts of that cost then sure fair is fair

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Nope don’t do it :cry: manipulation isn’t good

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I would ignore the help out of her.

Maybe you should talk to her, like an adult on the situation. I’m sure it’ll help

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I don’t know… you’re the only mother figure those 3 kids have right? And you raised her, you must love her, maybe this is a good first step in mending whatever distance was put in that relationship. She’s only 13, still immature and sensitive. Do what you feel is right but I’d be doing what I could to stay in her life and love her from afar until she’s ready to be close again.

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Nope, I wouldn’t buy her an expensive gift. I’d probably just get her a chocolate stocking for if she comes over.

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Tell her the truth that you can’t afford it.

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Shes not a child, shes a teenager. I think you should get her something small, and message her back saying you got her something for Christmas but that the gift she requested is a bit much, and express to her that it hurts your feelings that the only time she talks to you is to request an expensive gift.

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Don’t give in. She’s using you

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I wouldn’t buy that gift she wants

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