Am I being overly sensitive?

Hello, my ex-husband and I claimed bankruptcy last year, and we own a house together. This property was turned over to the bank, and the bank listed this a couple of months ago. I don’t live in that area now, but some of my friends saw the ad, I think, and messaged me on Facebook asking if we still own the property or it’s been turned over to the bank. I know it’s a simple matter, but I feel it’s a too invasive and personal question to ask. Or am I just being too sensitive? How am I going to respond? Thank you all!

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Could you tell them you sold it privately and the new owners are selling it?

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Tell them the truth, you opted to turn the house to the bank and know nothing about the sale. You are far from the only person who was affected badly by the downturn.

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No advise but that sucks. I filed bankruptcy last year and was able to keep both my house and my car. Maybe it’s bc only I did and my husband didn’t and he’s also on both the house and car. I’m sorry.

I think your being too senstive, you arr willing to tell complete strangers what is going on, but not well intending friends…

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Just don’t respond. It’s really no one’s business besides yours and your ex’s.

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It sucks for sure! Tell them the truth- you have nothing to do with the house anymore! Which is true!

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It’s none of their business!

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Just tell them that part of your court agreement with your ex-husband was selling it

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Why do you have to respond?!

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Respond with, “Why do you ask”? The best reply to any nosey, rude question. NO OTHER WORDS, Just “Why do you ask”? Which leaves them looking like the rude person they are. Also, I am sorry you are going through this. If they saw it in the paper, they already know. It is none of their business period.

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Nah your being sensitive.
If its advertised people will see it.
The title for the advertisment is probably like

QUICK SALE BANK FORECLOSURE DON’T WAIT
PRICED TO SELL!!

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If it’s not someone that is in my daily circle I wouldn’t bother to respond it’s just people being nibshits

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Personally, I wouldn’t give individuals my personal business info. But to each their own.

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No ones business. Period.

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No you’re not, I find these days especially after having my first child that people are extremely invasive and think they have a right to know anything as long as they ask nicely. Truth is they have no right to such personal information whether or not you’re willing to share. My response would be: “ that’s a very personal question I’m not comfortable answering, but I’m ok & thank you for your concern.” If that response offends them oh well, they offended you first by asking the question in the first place & making you uncomfortable.

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I personally don’t feel like you should feel the need to respond at all, but if you feel obligated to do so I’d simply say the sale is just part of the divorce.

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Its a question answer it

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It’s no one’s business so I would say don’t respond. It stinks because it will advertised so they will know it’s up for sale but you don’t have to answer.

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People don’t mind their own at all anymore… those who matter or you want to vent about the matter know and thats all that needs to know…

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