My mom is flying to visit us in a few months. I have seen her two times in the last year and a half due to travel restrictions, safety concerns, etc. We have all been vaccinated for covid-19, including my mom. My In-laws live 30 minutes away from us. We see them once every week or two. They are not vaccinated and have no plans to do so. My MILs birthday happens to fall on the second day my mom will be in town. My husband wants to throw a surprise birthday party for his mom with his sister’s family and our family…10 people total on her birthday. I’ve asked that we throw the surprise party the week before for two reasons: - my mom is flying in the day before, and I don’t want to risk the health of my In-laws since they are not vaccinated - I have hardly seen my mom in the last year and a half and really want to enjoy the 5 days she will be here. I feel like she deserves all of our attention as I don’t know when we will see each other again. My husband thinks I’m unreasonable asking to throw the party the week before bc his mom will be upset that it’s not on her actual birthday. What would you do in this situation?
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. Like you said, you’re concerned for their health and safety and you never get to see your mom.
unreasonable social distance and wear your mask.
Attend her birthday party on her birthday. You will be what? 2-3 hours with them?
Unreasonable it’s like gim asking your mom to change her flight.
Take your mum with you and enjoy the party. You cant make someone celebrate their birthday a week early or tell your mum to come few days later if she can re arrange flights.
I honestly don’t understand people who have to celebrate their birthdays on their actual day once you are an adult.
I get where you are coming from. Can your mom go with you to the party? Try and keep everyone happy.
Let them party, stay home with ur mom!!!
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be upset about this at all! But could there be a compromise? If his family isn’t worried about the virus maybe take your mom along? It might be a fun outing for everyone!
Your mom will be okay I am sure that you have a party for a few hours. Maybe invite your mom if possible.
If I were in this situation, I would either attend the party with my mom, skip the party, or schedule the SURPRISE birthday party a week in advance to REALLY make it a surprise birthday party.
Vaccines does not prevent a thing…and if you already have yours then why do you care?? Will your Vaccine work better if everyone else has one? No. Makes no sense.
You are being unreasonable. Stop freaking out over a glorified flu and stop being selfish. You’ll all live. Grow up.
I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all. I think, your spouse is being unreasonable, tbh. I do hope, he has an epiphany and realizes the short amount of time you will get with your parents, is precious and long over-due. Who said a birthday party, must be celebrated on the actual day? It’s usually done on a day, most people could make it; like, a weekend. Either way, enjoy every minute you get with your parents! This past year has been difficult on most extended families.
You’re being unreasonable. It’s a party. It’s 2-3 hours of your day.
You take your mom out and go do something let him enjoy his mom! I get it if my mom was alive I’d be super selfish with her enjoy your mom! With covid and everything you deserve mom time too
Honestly if it were me I would tell my husband to go ahead and go to his moms party and I would hang out with my mom! I’m sure everyone will understand that u don’t see your mom that often and everything will be fine!
I would just stay and do something alone with my mom. Have him take kids if you have any and use it for just you and her time. Or your husband can do it the day before or day after your mom leaves. You gave 2 choices and he can pick which one he wants. Why would it put his family at risk if your mom had the vaccine?
I would be so annoyed if my husband asked me to reschedule MY moms bday for HIS mom’s trip. You’re being super unreasonable in my opinion. I agree with maybe bringing your mom along to the party? but to change your mother in law’s bday, that’s really entitled.
I think you’re being very unreasonable. It’s her birthday. Your mom will be in town 5 days. What’s a couple of hours away? Or take your mom with you. Social distance and wear a mask if you’re afraid.