Am I crazy to expect my husband to help with our baby after work?

I am a stay at home mom of a 5 month old little girl. My boyfriend/father of my daughter works full time. I understand that I dont work but I do take care of the house, laundry, dinner, our other child. He has it very easy here. He comes home to a hot meal every night and a clean house. Am I crazy for asking for a little help with our baby? He says it’s my “job” and hes out all day to provide for us. I get that he works crazy hours and is tired but I get tired too. This is an ongoing battle and I’m physically and mentally EXHAUSTED. Am I in the wrong ? Any advice is appreciated.

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No. He’s the dad, it’s his duty to help take care of baby.

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Nope. He should help. It’s his child too.

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Did he help with yalls other child?

No. He is still in fact the father and needs to participate in raising said child

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You both work. Just different jobs. When he is home you BOTH take care of the family that you BOTH decided to have.

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Uhhhh big fat Nooooooo it’s his child not “your job” that’s ridiculous!!!

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Throw the boyfriend out and get a new one. He is defective, maybe try warranty :woman_shrugging:t2:

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You both work. You both have jobs. When he’s home , neither of you are “working”, and those responsibilities should be shared at that point.

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No, he helped make the baby, so he can help raise the baby! :roll_eyes:

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I could never be with someone who wouldn’t help with his kids. I would’ve left the day he told me it was “my job”

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My husband works 5 days a week from 630pm-6am. He wakes up at 1pm and still helps with our kids until he goes to work and help with the house and cook until he goes to work. He does the same thing on his days off and even let’s me sleep in. So no you’re not wrong for asking for help and he needs to do it too

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You’re not wrong. You’re on call 24/7 no days off. He gets to come home and have a stress free evening then sleep a full night every night? Kids are 24/7 there are no breaks and that should go for both parents regardless of who stays home. You already take care of everything while he’s working. Does that not count as a full time job as well? Because it is.

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He absolutely still has the help. You take care of everything while he is out making a living. So when he is home yall both should be taking care of everything else together.

Why does his job end but yours doesn’t?

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No. He helped create the baby he can help take care of it.

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Your children together are not a “job”. She is a person who should have the care and affection of both her parents. I don’t understand “men” like this. You’ve BOTH been working all day, he gets to come home and relax…while you continue working? Nope.

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My husband works physical labor. Grading, pouring concrete, everything like that. He works from 7am to sometimes 8 at night and he has never once not helped with the kids. It’s a full-time job for both of y’all. Not just you.

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Should have had answers to questions before having children , home etc.

No …he is the dad and needs to spend time with both children!!! Just cuz you are at home mom doesn’t mean your not "working’. You staying home saves on daycare and provide a clean and safe environment for the family… He’s a dad …he’s needs to get over the money and remember that no child remembers that that remember the amount of time you spend on them

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This may sound awful. But stop cooking meals, doing his laundry, and anything else that revolves around him. Hes a big boy he can do his own stuff see how quick hell change his tune. He helped make the children he should help take care of them. Better yet on one of his days off challenge him to what you do in a day and you sit on the couch as if your at work. See how quickly he loses his mind. As mothers people are quick to think were superhumans and were not

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