Am I over reacting about my husband watching porn?

I and my SO have been together for three years. About 2 years ago, I walked into our bedroom to him masturbating to porn (he didn’t know I was home). He now masturbates to porn in the bathroom every time he’s in there (while pooping). Has anyone else ever dealt with this? I have brought it up to him a couple of times, but he will not talk about it, which I don’t blame him its an awkward topic. It does bother me & I’m not sure if I should be upset or if I’m overreacting. Any input is appreciated.

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What kind of porn is he watching?

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He’s not really pooping.

You feel how you feel about it. I can’t tell you how to think. For me, porn isn’t a big deal. I watch it when I’m “pooping” too. Means nothing

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it doesn’t bother me if my bf does it. but it would bother me if he did it every single time he went into the bathroom.

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I dont like my bf watching porn either. Cuz y watch porn if u have the real thing in front of u. Not only that but it kinda makes me feel like hes not attracted cuz my body aint like the porn stars. So i know how it feels i dont like him watching it either

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Watch with him and join in :slight_smile:

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It’s natural. :woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging:

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I feel like all men watch porn from time to time. Doesn’t bother me lol

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Me its not a big deal… its porn its nt like he can go through the phone n touch. All men do it. Its like they gotta test the equipment to make sure it works lol :joy: I always tell my husband hes gonna go blind some day if he keeps playing with himself lmfao

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I see nothing wrong with him watching it maybe you can join him if he wants you to and if you’re comfortable.

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Honestly don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. My spouse watches 24/7, I watch it occasionally and we watch it together. We will even share via text videos lol. We have a very healthy sex life. So I could care less…

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Can’t stand it!! To think your man is getting aroused by someone else makes me feel sick! But everyone is different. Personally it would bother me big time x

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Sometimes I don’t even wanna do anything and they would have to resort to that which I don’t care . But it sounds like a lot … do you guys have a good sex life ?

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I am 70 years old and I say…No big deal.

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From the words of my husband “it’s awkward, idk why but it feels bad for me to watch it especially without you” we watch it together and separately, I don’t feel bad when I watch it without him, idk why he feels bad I told him idc just don’t delete them out your activity log because sometimes he finds better ones then I can (I like story lines :woman_shrugging:t3:) he still does but it’s whatever I understand his side, y’all just need to talk about it and how you both feel and come to an understanding, most men regardless will watch it but hide it because you feel like it’s cheating/or however you feel. It’s a man thing to make it awkward and weird when it doesn’t have to be :roll_eyes::woman_facepalming:t3:

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All depends on the dynamic of your relationship…what works for some may not work for others…personally for us…we dont care if we watch it

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Watch it with him…

Its just fantasy… No different tgen us watching broke back mountain or fifty shades of gray…

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means you’re not doing your deed by putting out!!:rofl::rofl:

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There is watching porn, and then there is being addicted to porn. If your not home, eh, most men do it. If you are home and it’s happening all the time, and he is picking it over you, and trying to hide it, or lie about it, thats an addiction. Its normal to be hurt by it. Because it isnt every once in a while. It isnt when you arent home. If its addiction, it literally causes problems in your relationship, self esteem, confidence, and security.

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It’s just porn … it’s a good way to relieve stress. Maybe he has interests he’s too embarrassed to talk to you about. Approach the subject gently maybe.

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