Am I over reacting or is my husband being shady?

Need advice, please. My husband has been gone for a year now, working in another state. He only comes home on the weekends or every other weekend. Lately, we have been talking about anything other than himself and the gym. Also, when he comes home for the last two months hasn’t wanted anything to do with me sexually unless I’m doing everything. I told him I was feeling so stressed with everything going on between him, kids doing schooling at home, taking care of everything by myself at home, n still working 30 hours a week. He told me no one would baby me or hold my hand to quit making it a big deal that kids are hard ( we have four kids, 13, 11, 7, and 1 ) and that I shouldn’t need reassurance that I’m doing a good job. I felt defeated, like he’s not my other half at that moment. On his Facebook, I had asked him to delete the girls he has slept with or tried to sleep with. He wouldn’t want those guys on my Facebook, so I thought it was mutual respect. I found out last night he was an Instagram with all those girls he deleted from Facebook as he followers on there. When i asked him about it he said i was controlling and petty. I’m just so confused. Please tell me what would you do… Am i over reacting???

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Sounds shady as hell to me.

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Say byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee​:wave:t2::100:

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Honestly I feel like he is definitely hiding stuff and he is not having any empathy for his so-called love of his life

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Trust your gut…if something doesn’t feel right, then it ain’t right. Sounds like he regressed and turned himself into a f-boy. Boy byeeeeeee

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He’s screwing around

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Been there, done that. Time to say good bye

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Boot his ass. He’s disrespectful and sounds arrogant now.

Time for a road trip!!!

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It sounds like he’s checked out of the marriage already

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In my opinion that is really shady and I’m so sorry you’re going through this rn…

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If you only see your husband on weekends and he doesn’t want to be intimate I feel like that’s a huge red flag.

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It’s not as easy as saying bye they have 4 kids together you need to speak to him openly and honestly only you can make the right decision for you

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He’s feeling himself and is emotionally detached from you and your children. He’s enjoying living like a single man and doesn’t want you to know better or want more from him. That is why he trivializes your feelings.

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Dump his ass can u say divorce papers but first i would go visit him unexpectedly take your children to a babysitter go down there and check it out I had to say is divorce papers and keep it pushing from their get all my spousal support child support he’ll wish he had done everything he needed to do

Kick him to the curb! Make him pay Child support for your 4 kids! He will not have any money left to screw around on!

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My husband works in another state and he doesn’t act like this at all. We have 5 kids at home (13, 12, 10, 8 and 1.5) and yes there has been lots more put on me but its part of life. He sounds shady AF.

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Just leave. Why are you asking for advice on an answer you already know.

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Hell he’s cheating sis

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Next time he leaves tell him not to bother coming back.

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