Am I over thinking this situation with my husbands family?

So this might sound petty and I really don’t mean for it too, BUT how would you guys react if your spouse’s family (aunt’s, uncle’s, and cousins) left out your son (my husband adopted him last year, but he’s not biologically his). They all went to my niece’s birthday party this year, went over to see my nephew after he was born this year. They claimed they had to pack for a cross country trip and couldn’t make my son’s birthday party. They are always sharing pictures of my nieces and nephews, and NEVER one of my sons. Please don’t take this as a jealousy thing because I spoil my nieces and nephew HARD. I just am upset that it feels like my son gets left out because he’s not biologically my husband’s…I don’t know. Am I petty? How would you react? I haven’t voiced any of this to them directly, but my husband and I both have a very big problem with my son being left out.

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Not petty at all, sad that people are this way but you can’t change them… Just be the best you and continue to love on your own child :heart::heart::heart:

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Keep the child from them because if they’re showing favoritism then your child will see it and wonder why they’re not good enough.

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You schould ask your husband to talk to them

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I would lay off spoiling their children if they don’t give a crap about yours and give those things to your child. It’s your decision if you still want to even try to be in their lives (because that is his family) but other than that it’s a shitty situation and time to take yourself out of it

You should stay out of it. It’s his family and he must be the one to say something. I don’t blame you one bit. It is a child whom your husband has taken the responsibility for and he should be treated the same as any biological child in the family

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If your husband has a problem with it too, then he needs to speak up and say something to them about it.

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Your not petty, they are…

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As someone who was adopted by a “step” parent, I can tell you this is 100% a thing. My dads family leaves me and my younger brothers out because “we are not biologically his” even call us the others. My dad doesn’t have any biological children. It sucks but in the end, if they can’t bother with us we can’t be bothered with them.

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Not petty at all. I’m adopted and I was treated differently from my fathers side of the family than their blood grandchildren. It hurts.

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Don’t allow you or your child to be around them until they start treating your child better

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I went through the same thing with my son. He’s now 35 and his adoptive fathers family has nothing to do with him to this day. He raised him since the age of 2

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I think I would have a party when I know they could make it and if they did not you know something’s up and I would address it to all of them I would ask them is

It’s awful …you never leave out any child. I lived that many years ago and told all the parties involved…it’s hurtful . It’s up to you to tell the other adults it’s not acceptable.

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Not petty at akl6and honestly you need to speak to them. They may not realize they are doing it and eventually your child will notice and feel hurt so just talk to them and see where you go from there

Your husband needs to handle this one.

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As this is his side of the family he needs to talk about this with them.

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This breaks my heart. Poor little darlin. My step father was our father for 35 years, he passed 3 years ago and had no biological children. His headstone reads loving son brother and uncle! Compliments of his existing brothers and sister! Not one mention of the 4 daughters he raised for 35 years! We live in a small country town and are the only ones who visit his grave on the daily as they live in the city and haven’t even been back in 3 years. It’s cruel! I feel for you and you boy. Speak up and tell them they are being shit humans and you won’t stand for it!:heart::heart:

My ex husband passed away a year ago. Years ago, he adopted my four other girls, while we had one together. His mom sent my girls a message the other day telling them they were no longer invited to any of their family functions again and to not have any contact with them ever again. People suck and it’s sad

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