Anyone else have a spouse with ADD?

My husband has ADD. He has many issues from it that he refuses to recognize, but they really create hardships on our family. He has a job where he stares at a computer all day (which isn’t good for ADD anyway). He has blue light-blocking glasses, but all they do is help with eye strain. He does NOT take any medication or do anything at all to help with ADD symptoms. I work a full-time job as well. When he gets off work, he is a complete JERK. He comes downstairs and plops onto the couch, and gets on his phone. Anytime any of us try to get his attention, it takes 2-3 tries, and I have to ask him to put his phone down and actually give us his attention, which he gets incredibly rude about. As far as taking care of the house, he has gotten to the point where he doesn’t help at all and complains like crazy if I don’t get something done even though I work all day as well and take care of all 3 of our kids. His child has stated many times. Lately, they want to go live with their mom, and I can’t blame the poor kid because my husband is just a jerk to all of us most of the time. I 100% think him staring at a computer all day has an effect on his attitude the rest of the day. I have tried to talk to him about his ADD, but he gets super crappy with me and says it’s none of my business. Which obviously, it is because it’s affecting our kids and me. I love all three kids very much, and splitting them up would absolutely crush them and me. Has anyone else had a spouse with horrible ADD?

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This doesn’t sound like ADD is the issue :thinking:

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Your with him why???

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My husband is ADD and doesn’t take medication but he is NOTHING like this.

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Sounds more like technology addiction to me.

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this isn’t due to ADD…not quite sure why you would correlate his behavior with it

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I would leave him. A man that loves u doesn’t treat u like that

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Sounds like depression… I do this when my depression gets bad…

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Sounds like depression not ADD

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What does this have to do with ADD? Maybe do some research what it actually is bcuz this is not it sounds like he’s just a ahole!!

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Who said he gas ADD?. Dont sound like this anything to do Add…more to it somewhere

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Sorry but that’s not why he acting like that. Also him having screentime actually helps with add and ADHD cause it keeps his attention as does his phone both are stimulating his mind. So maybe you should find out the real problem and not blame it on ADD

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I have ADD and do not act like this AT ALL! I clean, cook, work, school and take care of the children. ADD actually makes me wanna do things. I’ve actually been diagnosed but I’m pregnant so I’m not on meds. My ADD makes me wanna talk non stop to my husband. I do sometimes struggle with focusing on doing my school work but I’ve learned how to manage it as a 28 year old adult. He sounds like he’s being a jerk just because that’s how he is.

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This doesn’t sound like ADD is the primary issue. I’d tell him to see a doctor and a therapist - ultimatum.

That’s an excuse…

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I have add I don’t act like this um maybe he’s just an asshole haha

I have adhd (add is actually an outdated term) and that ain’t it. Sounds like he may have a different issue. Adhd meds won’t help that, but it sounds like he should seek help for whatever is ailing him.

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Sounds more like asshole syndrome not add

Just because it takes 2-3 times to get someone’s attention doesn’t mean they have add/adhd.

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My husband has ADD and used to use it as an excuse to avoid things. From my experience with it, I’d say he’s stressed or depressed and trying to escape. We really struggled with constructive conversation for a long time bc of it. I’d say therapy. I know men are hard to convince sometimes but I don’t believe in throwing away something good if there’s a fix. I’d say make time for a date night or just time without kids and try to have a serious talk about stuff that could be bothering him.

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