Can I do anything about my sons dad having random girls over on his weekends?

I found out that when my son goes to his dad’s house on the weekends, he has his flavor of the week over. I don’t really like the idea that he has different girls around my child on his weekends, and I have expressed this to him but he says he is going to do what he wants. What should I do?

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Unless it’s addressed in your parenting plan there is nothing you can do.

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No just like he can’t do anything when you have people over

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Mind your own business, that’s what you should do.

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Unfortunately nothing. It’s his weekend and he can do what he wants. Unless there’s abuse, you’ll have to stomach it.

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Unless the child is in some type of danger there really isn’t anything you can do. Just like he cant tell you who you can and can’t have over.

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Sign * sadly he can do what he wants on his weekend unless he’s abusive.

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Unless its in your custody agreement? You can’t.
And if you try? He can request the same thing. Be careful for what you wish for.
Its his weekend, not yours. You can’t dictate anything when its his time.

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Let him parent how he wants. Unless you want to go back to court with a morality clause put in which would go for you too, you have to let it go and realize its his house and you cant control him any more than he can control your house.

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I think we need a lil more information here. How old is your child? How did you find out about the girls? Did the child mention it ? Is there something wrong going on?

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Just let it go! My X husband has 4 Xwives including me… Trust me there’s NOTHING you can do about it! It’s his life. Let him F it up! As longs as the best interests of the child are being met and he’s not coming home with bruises. Say nothing, you’ll just look “Jealous and Petty” if you do!

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“Flavor of the week” makes you just sound like a bitter ass baby momma!! Do you ever have men over? Or have potential boyfriends? I used to have this issue with my sons dad, but I was just being a bitter bitch. I got over it. Now he has a woman who is absolutely amazing and treats our baby like her own!!

As long as your child isn’t being hurt and cared for, you can’t do anything. You each get to do your own thing when you have your child, unfortunately.

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Nothing. You legally can’t unless you’re willing to take him back to court or mediation and get it written in specifically. And that is a double edged sword that cuts both ways.

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Nothing you can do. Just like he has no say in what goes on at your house

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You legally can’t do much. Just accept it. As long as your kid is safe and happy, that’s all that matters

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If there’s no parenting plan or court ordered visitation keep your son home until his dad agrees to stop. If you have a plan in place. Communicate how you feel to the dad. If the dad blows you off keep record of any marks on your son or anything bad your son says. If abuse or neglect happen take it back to court.

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Mine yo mutha F’n business

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Nothing if y’all didn’t write it up on y’all’s paper.

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Wow these comments are shocking! The woman clearly isn’t trying to control him she is worried about who is around her child and for what she saying its many different women, and I’m sure all you woman wouldn’t be of the same opinion if she had a different men around her child every weekend :roll_eyes: she has a right to be concerned, especially if his father can’t take a weekend off having women around his child if he has all week to do what he wants … but unfortunately everyone is right there is not much you can do, your child will make his own decisions when he wants ans know who put him first just be there for him and let him know he can talk to you about anything incase anyone his father may decide to bring into his life isn’t right for him because understandably that is a worry for any mother as it would be for any father

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