I’m thinking about divorce. For more than one reason. I would like advice, or what the whole process was like. All tips are welcome
If it’s amacible you can file on your own depending on your state. It’s alot cheaper.
File first. It works better for you.
Get yourself sorted first. Establish credit in your name. A bank account in your name get a solid job secure anything precious/ valued get your legal docs birth certificate passport SS card together Do all that first. If you have to move the good credit will help you get a decent place. If it is amicable it can be done cheep and sometime with only filing papers at the courthouse. If not many lawyers will do a low or no cost consult ask around See who is good. But first make sure YOU have your personal ducks in a row
If it’s amicable, sort everything out before filing. Then you can file for yourself. Save a bunch of money.
Definitely sit down with a GOOD lawyer. They can explain the process to you.Unfortunately a good lawyer is expensive but is worth it in the end!!
Get a good attorney, wish I would’ve spend the extra money up front. Would’ve saved me thousands and lots of stress and time.
No one wants to go through a divorce. It takes 2 for a marriage to work. Only 1 to wreck it. If counseling is a viable option, do it. If you have kids, I suggest family counseling. I did family and couples counseling. Like I said, one to wreck it. 6 affairs, a pregnancy, an abortion, a bankruptcy and I threw in the towel. I got the house, joint managing conservatorship. She walked. It’s tough on you and the kids. My kids are grown. They told me that we shouldn’t have stayed together as long as we did. Sit down with an attorney, maybe 3 attorneys. Get their insight on your situation. You are the expert for your situation. Good luck.
If my ex and I were able to become friends in time, there is hope for all. It’s going on 2y since we had any difference. We just get along and it’s so easy this way. He actually tends to just leave the kids with me on his days often and I’m thrilled to have them as much as possible. But then if he needs them for anything we just mingle through it and have no issues. So plan on hard times… But things can come together.
If there is no cheating or abuse going on I advise you to work it out. My marriage hasn’t been perfect, we have a daughter, we were separated because I wasn’t happy and I realized I was being selfish and just thinking of my own feelings so we moved back. Things still aren’t perfect but we said our vows and made a commitment. You just have to remember that. My daughter is older now and was married for almost 7 years and they had 2 girls, he decided to get involved with somebody he works with and divorced my daughter. Broke my daughter’s heart. Just please think about this before you make this decision.
If you’ve tried everything else (relationship counseling etc) and you’re ready to explore divorce then I would also recommend seeking legal advice.
It sucks. Even if both parties want it. With or without attorneys. It is very hard.
Took mine 5 months with kids, non contested with agreements on everything! Cost us 1k with a shared lawyer. It greatly varies on you personal situation and if you can agree, share an attorney and so on.
Remember always that your kids are like sponges,they soak up everything they hear and it definitely creates more hurt and challenges that changes their lives forever.
Don’t stay in a marriage that is hurting you. Don’t waste your life on someone that is not willing to stand by you. Please DO get an attorney.
There is no such thing as a nice divorce!!!
I was married 30 years and I thought he couldn’t screw me over again BUT he did. Took it all!
An Ex is an Ex!!!
My husbands divorce was miserable, his ex wife made it very hard even without kids. My divorce from my ex husband was a breeze. Took me 60 days and thats because you have to wait 30 days after you file. If you have any questions feel free to message me. No judgement and I’ll help as much as I can.
Mine took a year. I had a house and kids involved. My ex husband and I had a messy divorce but became better people in the end. We co-parent very well. my boyfriend and his girlfriend are part of our sons “family” it takes a villahe to raise a child.
Please seek the Lord before deciding on divorce.
My heart is broken when marriages fail. I know there are very real very reasonable reasons for divorce, but please, only do it for the right reasons, when all else has really truly failed. Prayers for you.
Consult with a lawyer. Everything varies state to state and even county to county. Length of marriage, employment status, children, reason for divorce all change the game
That is very specific to the area you are in.