Coping with the loss of a baby

How do you cope with the loss of a baby?

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Take time to grieve. Know that it’s okay to not be okay & Its okay to be sad. Do not let anyone else try to dictate how you should or shouldnt feel. If someone hasn’t gone through it, theyre really not going to understand. It’s hard. It sucks…horribly. It is normal (&very likely to happen) to feel a whirlwind of emotions- angry, sad, confused, etc. Also there is no “expiration date” on grief. Allow yourself to feel.

To cope, try to find hobbies to keep busy. Find a good book, draw, paint, color, craft-etc.

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Joined groups that allow you to talk about your baby. I’m apart of them. I never made my own post but intalk about my loss in comments from time to time. Look up stillbirth miscarriage and baby loss and groups will pop up. You have to grieve and that looks different for everyone.

Honestly I went through the stages of loss and eventually I ended up lighting some candles and meditating, thinking of everything I wanted to say to my baby. When I was done, I got a tattoo. That way I could carry her with me forever. It helped. I now have two boys and I’m expecting a daughter any-day. It’s still very hard but it does get easier.

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Sending you all of my love

I’m so sorry. Hugs n prayers sent

Find meetings for survivors that the only thing that helped me when my daughter passed away 25 yrs ago. She was 20 days old. And talk Abt your baby to any and everyone that will listen. Cry as much as you want and get angry

One day at a time sweetie… I’m soo sorry… some days it’s minute to minute… just know you’re not alone… I’ve lost 6 prayers and hugs

When I had a miscarriage and stillbirth 2 years apart I would first allow myself to grieve and then i started finding hobbies that would lift my mood. The thing is you never completely get over losing a baby but it does get easier with time. They are in our memories and hearts💕

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You breathe in and breathe out. One breath at a time. Lay in bed and just cry a good cry, but never give up. On life, on yourself, on your family. Some days you’ll feel okay, and that’s absolutely fine, and some days you wont be able to stop thinking about the baby. Everyone grieves differently, everyone gets on with life in their in their own time. Theres no timeline, take care of yourself and know that you are a great person, and this happens naturally and is not your fault. Some days i wasnt sure how I was going to get out of bed, but i did. You’re going to be okay, I promise. :heartpulse:

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That will stay with u forever u just learn to adjust to the pain but u don’t forget it and ur heart a piece missing to

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Find others or even fb groups of parents that have experienced infant loss.

Make a book.Be an author of it and it will help other mothers understand to be strong.

Take all the time you need to heal, it’s absolutely heartbreaking, take one day at a time, it’s okay to not be okay. I lost my baby boy in December an I still am taking one day at a time. So sorry for your loss

Facebook groups helped me. Jewelery to remember them by, I got a teddy for myself too. And for Christmas I got a tree ornament.
Even though the baby isnt here with me, I’d still love to have him/her part of my life and always remembered.
Takes time, and lots of patience. Some days are harder than others, but just let yourself rest when you feel overwhelmed. Another thing I’d say is don’t let people tell you how to feel. You feel how you feel, when you feel it. Allow yourself to experience it…
Best of luck, and I’m so sorry for your loss :two_hearts:

It’s been almost 15 years and I’m still coping with it i still cry

I ended up needing therapy to help with my grief of losing our son during pregnancy. It was the hardest thing I had ever dealt with and I was extremely depressed for a very long time. But with therapy and time it got easier. So very sorry for your loss.

Sending you so much love and light. Pray, rest, sulk, do whatever you need to do to just feel okay. There’s no right or wrong way to live through that type of grief but time makes it easier. You’ll never forget though. You just learn to carry on :heart:

I’ve lost 2. One was a miscarriage and my most recent daughter passed away at 5 months do to idiocracy health reasons, or prematurity and health issues the doctors never saw before. That was a year and a half ago. But just take One day at a time. For myself… I am a christian and believe He knows what he’s doing and I will trust him. I went to therapy. I watched motivational speakers and life coaches online. I made and still make myself busy, doing chores, projects, hobbies. I do have my oldest and she’s my motivation to move forward and not to give up.
Just don’t forget it’s ok and normal to grieve and not be ok. And it’s ok to not do anything once in awhile.

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Grief councelling? Child loss support groups, talk to people about your child. Not everyone will understand, but friends and family want to help, they really do, don’t isolate your pain.