Did you regret having your tubes tied?

I have a fan question! It doesn’t have to be posted anonymously. I am 25 and currently pregnant with my second son. Me and my bf tried for a year to have a baby and it didn’t happen. We broke up for a year and got back together and within the first month I was pregnant so, it was kinda a surprise but something we wanted before. He has three daughters and I had one son. So, including this new baby we will have 5 all together. Neither one of us wants anymore children after this and I have been considering getting my tubes tied. I just wanted to hear from some other ladies who have gotten their tubes tied. Personally I hate birth control. It makes me crazy and I have tried every form except the IUD that goes inside you and I refuse to get it. I forget the pills, the shot made me bleed for months at a time and the arm implant worked it just made me insane. I know most people would say not too because I’m still young, but I do not want to have babies in my thirties. Has anyone had their tubes tied around my age? Did you regret it? My main concern is if it will have any changes to my body. Thanks in advance

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Following. I’m 26. I have 2 boys(4, 1 1/2) but I want my tubes tied. I don’t want anymore kids but I’ve tried every birth control there is and I don’t like it.

I had my done a year ago when I was 32 and 6 kids later. Three which are 3,2, and 1 and for the most part I’m glad I did but honestly the thought of never having anymore kids really gets to me some days but I did what was best for my family.

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I had my tubes tied when I was 20 and I do not regret it at all! Pregnancy was hell for me and I knew 2 was all I could handle. My dr made sure to give me all kinds of scenarios, like god forbid one passed or if I remarried and wanted more, cuz I was so young but I was dead set on it. Just think long and hard and follow your heart. Good luck!

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I had mine tied after my 3rd baby and no regrets!!

I have 3 kiddos and I have my moments of regret. Which quickly disappear lol. I think it’s normal to feel that way. I know I’m definitely done. But you can’t help it when you see an adorable newborn lol

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Dont do it cramps for the rest of your life

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I had mine done at 24. I regret it tremendously. I am now 38 and have 4 teenagers. My reason for regret is a year after having it done I separated from my children’s father and married my now husband 2 years later. My husband came into our marriage with no children and although he considers my kids as his own( he’s been in their lives since my youngest was 2yo) I will never be able to provide him with a child that we would share together. Currently we are looking into adoption. But yes I do regret it

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I’m 29 years old and don’t want anymore children so I don’t regret the decision behind getting the procedure done. I do however regret not doing more research into what might happen to my body after. Do a little research into post tubal ligation syndrome. Not every person that has this procedure ends up with this but it’s rarely talked about before it is done. Just make sure that you are prepared for the possibility.

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No regrets at all mom of 3 boys all preemies 2 being a set of twins and between me and my ol man we have 7 children…we did not want anymore nor did I want to go through another NICU stay…My periods are a bit more intense during the first 2 days but I can deal with that easier than the thought of being pregnant again…

I don’t know what the rules are there for you. Here you have to be at least 25 and have either a medical issue or already have kids. Your the later so it should be ok. My mom had one at 22 due to medical issues and I had a friend at 23 with three kids get it done while the c section was taking place. Just be sure. Hugs

I went the easiest way… I popped out the babies, so he got the vasectomy :rofl::clap:t2:

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Not at all! When you know your done YOUR DONE. I was 24 when I had mine done after one child of each gender

I got my tubes tied after 4 c-sections, I haven’t regretted it, but if you don’t feel peace with it don’t do it!

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Yes and and i have the worst menstral issues ever

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Momma of 6 perfectly amazing kiddos. Had a very traumatic emergency csection with in Jan of 2017, which resulted in complete tubal removal.

Met my husband in 2018, who has a 15 and 17yo, and after much discussion, decided we wanted a child together. Consulted with a fertility clinic, started treatment within next cycle, took a few cycles to become successful, and are delivering our little man via planned csection, in 4 weeks :blue_heart:

Definitely talk it over with yourself and Dr and make sure it’s what you want! I’m debating it myself as I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my third baby and I’m 31 years old.

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Unfortunately you may find out that your OBGYN won’t do it until you’re a certain age, married or single, and other factors like that. I was a 27 year old widow with two children, a degenerative muscular condition and absolutely certain I didn’t want anymore children (because I can take care of the two I have on my own just fine, but a third maybe not) and my doctor said absolutely not tying my tubes until I was 30. Six months before my 30th birthday I end up pregnant. Not necessarily a bad thing, but just keep in mind your doctor may not see things the same way you do.

If you ever feel the need to have kids again, there’s always adoption. I know sometimes it’s expensive but in some states if you adopt through the state/foster system, it could only be a couple thousand. You could skip the baby stage but also give a home to a wonderful child.

Obviously this is not for everyone. I’m just suggesting that this option is available if she regrets the decision. But if she feels like she is done, of course she shouldn’t be pushed into having another child!

I got mine tied at 25, now at 32 I wish I hadn’t. I regret it! Birth control did me the same way, but I still regret having it done. My husband and I would like to have a child of our own and we can’t. After 3 beautiful children of my own and 2 failed marriages, my suggestion would be don’t do it! You never know where life will take you and you may end up wanting to have children later on, even tho you don’t think so now!!

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