Do I have a right to be mad that my boyfriend DNA tested our daughter without telling me?

My boyfriend tried to DNA test our 3-week old daughter behind my back, without my permission, for a paternity test. We have been together for over a year; I’ve never cheated, or given him any reason to believe that I have. IM honest, even when I don’t have to be, and he knows that i would fight for him because when we argue, I’m always the one to try to calmly talk it out like an adult. He was going off of what a stupid friend of his said. This friend has disrespected me and wanted to break us up in the past, and now I feel like him putting in my boyfriend’s head that his daughter isn’t his is disrespectful to our daughter. And i feel like he is allowing his friend to disrespect his daughter by discrediting her authenticity. I feel like his friend’s approval is more important than his family. If he had come to me and talked about it, it would have been a different story, but he went to great lengths to try to hide this from me. Am I overreacting or do I have the right to be angry?

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YOU have every right to be mad! He does not! He should have talked to you about it…

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I feel like if there’s nothing to hid, then a dna test shouldn’t be a big deal. But I’m also a firm believer that paternity test should be mandatory before signing the birth certificate.

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You should reevaluate your entire relationship. This is not normal behavior whatsoever.

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Im at a loss for words. I would want to leave though. He obviously doesnt trust you. And how could you trust him ever again?

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Leave and file for child support. The trust is obviously not there on his end. Plus he valued the allegations of his friend over your word. That is not okay

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You have a right to be upset. He can want a DNA test but he should have gone to u about it. I wouldnt want to be with someone like that at all.

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Totally have the right to be angry. He could have felt comfortable enough to come and talk to you about it and knew that you would of course put his mind to ease

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I vote with over reacting. He confirmed he’s your baby daddy. He probably should have involved you but your choice is to either move on and drop it or to let it dig at you and break up. Just tell him dont to pull a bonehead stunt like that again OR that little DNA test will get the child support coming quicker.

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If someone took great lengths to hide something from you that you have every right to know about then you have every right to be angry. Thats bull crap :ok_hand:

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Im not saying you’re not. But just from the outside looking in if you’re being completely honest and know got a fact theres no reason for him to not trust you. They only accuse of what theyre guilty of.

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I would be mad if he didn’t say that’s what he wanted…not that he wanted to get one.

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I would be angry too and reevaluate the relationship.

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Legally I thought the mom had to give consent and be swabbed too? Either way you have every right to be upset. I’m so sorry.

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Let the stupid boyfriend go.

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I would be done with him, obviously he doesn’t trust you, he thinks you slept with somebody else or he wouldn’t have done the DNA test. That’s wrong, if you don’t have trust you don’t have anything. He could have just came to you about his feelings or about what his damn friend said. I would have to reevaluate the whole relationship.

Sounds like there is MUCH more to the story. If it is his child, what is the issue. If you say he is the father and he wants proof…he should be able to get it I am more concerned with why he would have to hide it from you!?

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I’d be furious and the relationship would be over.

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Your feelings are your feelings, and you can feel any way you want about it. Don’t deny him a dna test though. If he has any doubt, he has the right to know and be 100% about it. Again, you can feel any way you want about it. You’re not overreacting. He feels it was needed. You feel like there’s no trust. Maybe he just wanted to be 100% and put any slight worry to rest. Don’t be mad he got a dna test. Be mad he hid it. But still let him do a dna test. Now he will probably think you’re hiding something since your mad though, and his feelings are also just as valid as yours. It’s probably best if you let him take the dna test, and also have a big calm discussion about why it was necessary and why he couldn’t fully trust you, and if your relationship should continue as long as the trust is there.

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Yes you have a right to be livid.

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