I’d leave. And go get an std test. Usually men accuse of cheating because they did.
I mean you have a right to be angry…but he didn’t need your permission
I had a friend test his kid too behind his exes girlfriends back. Turns out it wasn’t his kid. I also suspect my son father tested my son because his friends kept asking if he was sure it’s his. I could care less if he did because I knew it was his seeing as the only person I was intimate with those 5 years besides him was also female lol
I would be livid. When those results come back proving to him that he’s the father I would tell him to get the fuck out.
The fact that y’all seem to think it’s no biggie that he wants a paternity test speaks VOLUMES about your life.
The fact that he’s got that much distrust in you, you’d be better off walking away from him. Slap him in the face with the results and leave him. If you don’t have any trust, you don’t have a relationship. Period.
Fathers have just as much right as mothers so yes sucks he dont trust but if he asked would you of flipped out or allwoed it
Break up with him now. This kind of deception cannot be fixed. He does value his friends opinion above his love and trust of you. Run.
Be angry for the right readon…which is, he’s not disrespecting you daughter, he’s disrespecting YOU.
Def. Over reacting… What ever he needs to do as far as paternity shldnt be a big deal
If you’re 100% sure she’s his and you have nothing to hide, then let him waste his money and get the test! As for the going behind your back, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship.
Personally, I’d be upset and think you have a right to be so, but also think you should talk to him about the disrespect you feel that he had to do such a thing to begin with and express your feelings to why he did this and ask him why he felt he needed to do it, and so secretly. I feel as women, we KNOW our babies are ours and therefore cannot understand the “what if” men might have whether we (or anyone else) give them that reason to wonder or not. Communication is key and if you’ve been doing that, then continue doing it now during this hardship because it could make or break you since this sounds slightly unhealthy and may need to be aware of if/when tou need to cut and run. Assuming the test came out positive, ask if he feels any better now knowing the same assurance and if it will help benefit his trust in your word in the future.
It would have been a problem either way, if he asked or the way he did it!!! I would have packed my bag and My baby and left, he should have told me what he was thinking of doing. Not lied and deceived me!!! Now I do think that every child should be DNA’d b4 signing the birth certificate!!! There are a lot of women that do just like men, cheat!!! The only difference is that they are stuck with a child that is not his for 18 years or life!!! Not ok
I would have let him do the test but then told him to choose you and his baby or that bitch ass friend of his and you never want to hear about it again but if you have a problem with it maybe you hiding something
I’d have been mad… Like bro, they ask you if you want a paternity test in the hospital… You couldn’t have asked for one in front of my face?
What’s going on with him and his friend tho I’d be livid, and the fact he went out of his way to try and hide it and do it behind your back makes him look even more suspicious. I’d run. It’s not going to get better. He’s not even capable of having an adult conversation with you about your own child. He’s looking for a reason to leave.
Id be a little upset he didnt trust me but at the same time it would give me satisfaction and the chance to say “I told you so”.
He doesn’t trust you. And did he ask you and you said no before? If so then no harm in it if theres nothing to worry about, sit back and watch. When it comes back positive calmly explain how this hurt your feelings… be an adult about the situation.
If thats what you need to do? Go ahead. I got nothing to hide. 🤷
It means he doesn’t trust you. I would be very upset. Not sure what the future of this relationship holds for you. Especially if he is like this one year in. This is supposed to be the honeymoon phase still.
I’d tell him I was really disappointed that he did that without speaking to you about it. The fact is he does not value your opinion and wants to make decisions without your input. He is old enough to make Hu’s own decisions, that not the point. The point is that it’s not the type of relationship you want and you want to separate for a while to think about if you want to stay with someone who doesn’t respect you enough to talk to you about major decisions he is making.