My fiancé and I have been together for five years and have two children together. One is two, and the other is eight months. My body has changed a lot, and I’m very insecure about it. My fiancé never really followed women like that before, and today I noticed a picture as he was scrolling on Facebook (he even stopped scrolling to look at it), and when I asked him about it, he laughed it off, but it made me feel terrible that he’s looking at women like that all the time. We’ve talked about this before, and I thought that was the end of it, but I guess not.
People will tell you it isn’t a big deal but it is! Having babies made me feel insecure too so I totally understand. My question is what is he doing behind your back if he’s open about doing those things in front of you?! Especially after you’ve said something to him about how it makes you feel before. Regardless, if it bothers you and he doesn’t respect that or try to understand where you’re coming from, you may need to have a more serious conversation with him. Hang in there mama. You’re still healing from the little one. Take care of yourself and don’t ignore your feelings.
If it bothers you then it’s a big deal. Your feelings and respecting them matter. The end.
Yes you have every right to be upset. If someone tells you it’s not a big deal it doesn’t mean it isn’t to you. That’s them. Some people are fine with it and see it as innocent. And it can be, BUT one you tell them it hurts you and they keep doing it anyways THAT’S when it’s a big deal. Because that is them disregarding your feelings and boundaries. You should feel safe in your relationship voicing your needs and feelings and having them respected. No one has to agree with your feelings but they should respect them because they are real and valid. Beyond the fact that if they love you they want you to be happy and as secure as you can be
Im having this issue with my husband currently also hes following half naked girls on his fb and Instagram and I told him how it makes me feel and I asked him to not do it especially now that im expecting my 2nd but his first child…maybe just talk to him again about the situation and ask why he does it?
The pictures themselves are not a big deal. What is a big deal is your fiance respecting your feelings, if it upsets you you shouldn’t be doing it. It’s called mutual respect.
Sounds like insecurity issues about your body
You actually have the right to be upset about anything that bothers you…even if someone else doesn’t like it. Your feelings are yours, and you can feel whatever you want to.
I’d be upset, your feelings are entirely valid !! Xx
Maybe you should post half naked photos of yourself on social media and see if he likes those
I guess some people would tell you that “boys will be boys” And that “there’s no harm in looking”. I don’t know. It seems a bit immature but it is probably going to pass. I think he should take your feelings seriously but he honestly probably thinks you’re being silly.
You’re insecure, because he hasn’t spent enough time helping you maintain your self-esteem after giving him beautiful children.
That’s a big red flag that women have always been instructed to ignore “for the good of the family,” which to me means ‘for the good of the man’s ego’
Men need to grow emotionally, and they need to learn to speak to their wives rather than retreating into seemingly innocent things, where it may evolve into something uglier and more hurtful for the entire family.
Your feelings are valid, regardless!! All emotions are valid, not all behaviors should be!
I dont see an issue with it at all. Im not the insecure or Jealous type by any means. Its a picture on Facebook its not like he’s out cheating I could care less.
Be proud of your body.
Look at what you created.
Men will look at any body .
Dont sweat it they are only pictures.
Shouldn’t have to change who he is because YOU are insecure. He didn’t stop being a man just because he’s with you.
If you’ve talked to him, and he still is doing it, then yes.
If you’ve never talked to him about it and told him you don’t like it, then no.
Everyone has different boundaries. He may not see it as a problem. And he won’t know it is if you never tell him that.
If he does know though, and doesn’t respect you? That’s different.
Start scrolling thru ur facebook and look up half naked men pics worked for me because he got a taste of his own… I know I’m petty but oh well he thought it was ok for him but ince he saw half naked men on my fb he flipped out and my point was heard