Do I have a right to be upset about my husband treating my son differently?

Okay, I’m torn. I just wanna know if I’m right or wrong. I have been with my husband for going on four years. We have two kids together 1 & 2, and I have two from previous relationships 5 & 8 he has four of earlier relationships 2 with one woman (they are older 21 and 17) and two younger ones with another woman 7 & 8 . when his two younger kids are here every weekend and sometimes through the week if their mom cant keep them due to work are expected to do everything for them watch them if he needs to go somewhere clean the whole house clean up their messes dishes toys, etc., but that’s whats expected of a stay at home mom, so I just did it. But since I’m a stay at home mom, I asked my husband to help me get school clothes for my son because his father isn’t in the picture, and being a stay at home mom, I can’t get the clothes myself. He told me at first that whatever he got for his boys he would get for my son but when it came time, he spent 300 on clothes and lied to me about it and also gave their mom 400 (she makes 6000 a month) and lied to me about that also then told me my son wasn’t his responsibility just because we are married. Am i wrong to feel mad upset and hurt? I mean i wouldnt be so hurt if I didn’t take care of his kids just like my own

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Get a job and make him figure out his sons when they come over .

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You have every right to be mad also try to get a job when he asks why you want to go to work you tell him because l have to provide for my son

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Did he get your son what he needed? It seems YES. It seems you are upset he gave the other woman money.

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That is terrible. Get a job and quit doing for his kids if he wants to play that game.

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Not to be petty… but if he doesn’t treat your children as his own like you say you do his… he’s an ass… he made the choice to Marry you and that child IS his responsibility now…

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As a child who grew up with a step parent… I felt the way he treated us differently from his kids with my mom. Life was awful trying to be loved by a man who was supposed to love us all the same and my mom accepted that. I am 50 and I can tell you I still feel the rejection in my soul. So much so that when it was my turn to give my son a stepfather…you better believe he treated him like the king he is. That’s my take you have to do what sits ok with your spirit. Our kids are ours forever. Good luck.

Nope nope nope. He can’t do for one and not the others. This isn’t a good situation and sounds like it won’t end well.

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All I have to say is that is fucked up

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Sorry but I would file divorce. He married you as a packaged deal knowing you had children. Those children became his just as his become yours. Nope, not ever gonna play that game.

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Get a job, move out, get a divorce, marry a real man.

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you’re a package deal , I would get a divorce and just skip all the games if hes gonna have that kind of mentality :woman_shrugging: wouldnt touch my soul to leave someone who thinks like that of my kids …

That’s some bullshit right there.

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I wouldn’t play these get a job and repay him by not doing work games, I would let him know we are headed for divorce. I would say you could talk to him about it, but he has already made his position toward your child clear. So basically it would be pointless. Also he has lied on mutipule occasions as stated, time to move on.

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I’m all for NACHOing - but that is not what is going on here. I think that’s very mean and I can’t imagine my husband doing that. And the lying tells me he knows it’s not right. I agree with the advice to get a job and I suggest you start to NACHO his kids and see if he’s still singing the same tune then. I’m sorry.

People only treat you how you allow them to.

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I’d be pissed… when he married you, he married your kids too. If he cannot take care of your kids as his own I’d kick his ass to the curb… your child deserves the same treatment that he gives his own…

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Yep he’s awful to do that to you

Sorry but this is not a good position to be in and you should reconsider the entire relationship. Did he feel that way about your son before you got married? and by the way you clean the whole house seems to me like you have children that are old enough to handle some chores with the same applying to his kids

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Throw the whole husband out

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