Do I have a right to be upset that my ex gave my engagement ring to his new girlfriend?

My ex and I were high school sweethearts, and we share two children together. We were together for 21 years and engaged for many years. We are now friends, and I am friends with his girlfriend, there are no hard feelings. Here’s where I need to help to process something. He proposed last weekend to his girlfriend…with the same ring I wore for years before I ended the engagement due to his drinking problem and lack of being a responsible adult for myself and our kids. There are no romantic feelings, and I’m not jealous, but I feel like the ring represents the good times and the love that we once had. We had discussed making it into a necklace for me or giving it to our boys; now it will likely be given to his new fiancées daughter. Am I wrong for feeling a little sad about this? Am I holding too much sentimental value to a possession? Is it tacky that she knows that was my ring and flaunts it?

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Well it’s his to do what he wants, so…

Very tacky in my opinion.

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I’d be sad and hurt over that too! That’s special. And I also definitely would not wear a ring that once belonged to his ex :woman_shrugging:

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I find it odd that he would give his new girl his ex’s ring. I personally would not wear a ring my husband had given to someone else.

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If I was the new girlfriend and he gave me his ex’s ring I would have said no. Lol was married & divorced and I have both of our wedding bands and my engagement ring.

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If I were the gf I’d be more pissed that he “reused” a ring. Isn’t that like baduck or something?

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Sorry you feel this way. However, holding onto the hurt and resentment will not do you any good. Although I would probably no doubt feel the same way if it had happened to me.

I would laugh. Honestly.

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Move on material things don’t mean anything

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Does she know it was yours?

Tacky.be glad you are rid of him

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She should be upset too

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You shouldn’t feel any type of way but she should… No way in hell I’d except a ring that was someone else’s

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I can’t believe she would accept a used ring. Wrong on so many levels.

It would feel icky to me as well. And i would think it would be icky for his new fiancee

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Girl your not wrong but let go and let god and yes tacky asf

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That’s bad luck. They probably won’t make it to the aisle.

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I don’t see how she would want it. It’s weird and I wouldn’t accept it.

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If it meant anything to you I would have kept it. I would probably not like it either but honestly since you gave it back it’s his to do what he pleases and now it’s too late.