Do I have a right to be upset that my husband hasn't told his family that I am pregnant?

I am almost 20 weeks pregnant with our 4th child (we have a 6 yr old, 3 yr old and 1 yr old) due to circumstances and me ending up caring for my grandmother who was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, I’m just now having my first Drs visit tomorrow. My family is aware that I am having another child, and they are supportive. However, my husband has yet to tell his parents or sister; his mom is adamant about not wanting any more grandchildren. I’ve been pushing the hubs to tell them because I’m a tiny girl, and I am starting to show and it’s very much a hassle to try to pick clothing that hides the current baby bump, especially when he will randomly just swing through, knowing that I like a heads up since he hasn’t told them yet. Am I wrong for being irritated that he has not? I’m literally about just to tell him he has a few weeks, and then I’m going to tell them myself because I always show very quickly once I hit the 5 month mark and it stresses me out even going there because I’m worrying the entire time about whether they can tell there’s a bump or not

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Just wear what you want. And they will find out Anyway. Or he could grow a pair and tell them lol

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It sounds (to me) like he’s afraid to tell them…

And it’s not for his mother to say she’s done wanting Grandkids :woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2:

Who does she think she is???

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Girl, fuck him hiding it. That baby is a blessing and the grandma aint the mama so she doesnt get a say as far as I am concerned

“adamant about not wanting any more grandchildren” well, too bad grandma.
The only people who have a say in your family planning is you and your husband.

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How the hell does your MIL think she gets a say in how many grandchildren she has? She isn’t raising them.

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Stop hiding that you’re pregnant-simple🤷🏻‍♀️

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Don’t hide it. If they notice and say something, just tell them that you thought your husband told them already.

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Grandparents don’t really have a say on how many grandchildren they get🤔 … just tell them yourself if it’s stressing you out

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If you and your husband are happy about this child (which it sounds it :woman_shrugging:t3:) who is your mother-in-law to say you can’t have any more kids. As long as you are feeding those kids and keeping them safe and warm then that’s all that matters. She has no right to tell you or your husband what to do.

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Don’t go out of your way to hide especially if you guys are supporting yourselves. Hell, wear a maternity shirt with the word baby on it and an arrow pointing down.

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Just wear what you want, if they ask you about it say “ oh I thought you knew, I asked him to share that with you awhile ago”.

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I’d be pissed too I say do what ever you want it’s his issue not yours your happy with this blessing don’t hide it show it off all you want it’s your body and you shouldn t feel like you have to hide your blessing on account of your husband your both grown :smiley:

either way in another 20 weeks a BABY is going to show up. his mother has no say in how many grandkids she wants lol y’all the ones producing and caring for them. he sounds scared to tell them, probably cause they’ve already told him to not have anymore kids and bam, y’all having another kid. I agree, tell him he’s got a set time to tell them or you will. he’s a grown man that shouldn’t be scared of his family, all they can say is words.

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Tell them yourself and tell them to fuck off if they don’t like it. It’s your baby, not theirs.

Excuse me but who is your mil to dictate whether or not you will have more children? Unbelievable how self centered some people are.

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Who cares about if she wants more grandkids ? Wow

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Haha I would be very clear when telling his mom where she can stick her opinion on not wanting anymore grandkids. Not her right to decide when y’all are done and just rude

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My husband hasn’t told his family besides his mom bc I told her that Im pregnant either with our second but his 4th child. And I’m showing A LOT so I just don’t go anywhere. It’s annoying and I told him when he goes over next time he needs to say somethinb

Let her ask. Don’t worry about it live your life