Let me know if I’m wrong for being hurt and upset by my husband’s decision. I just had my nasal polyp removed early this afternoon. I was starving when we got back to our hotel and was looking forward to eating. I was given guidelines not to bend over, not to lift anything over 5 pounds. I have my sister and 3 years old here. I suggested we should order in for supper. But it turned out he had already made plans with his brother, who apparently gets really hungry after his dialysis. He’s been in dialysis for a few months. I wouldn’t ha e minded if he chose to have supper with him now or any other day. NOT the day of my surgery. Now he got pissed off and decided not to eat out and stayed with me. Because I told him I didn’t wanna eat anymore and didn’t wanna waste his time. Am I overreacting?
He should understand .
I would have just ordered in for my sister, child and myself. Not like he was hanging out with friends or partying.
Why couldn’t you all eat together? Or was the issue really that he was inconsiderate of your feelings during a time you were vulnerable?
Yes, you had your sister with you and his brother’s illness needs support too. It would have been nice if you all could have eaten together though.
A little, you did say your sister is there and that it was a simple surgery out the same day, I know dialasis normally means a serious illness, he probably didn’t realize that you would have restrictions after and made plans before he found out. He stayed home to help you, value that and let it go (eat dinner) because by staying he is admitting he was mistaken and that you are his priority
You have to pick your battles & decide what is even worth causing friction in your marriage. You stated that your sister is there with you so it’s not like he was leaving you by yourself.
You might wanna apologize & just let him know that you over reacted. We as women do that sometimes, lol
No…he needs to overlook what he wants, you are the one who needs his help.
But…after all of that…he stayed home like you wanted and you STILL got mad?
You had your sister.
And he needed to be there for his brother like he usually does.
I think he didn’t tough your surgery was life threatening. But I’m sure he love you
Mmm kinda. Are you heavily medicated? Sounded like you were doing ok planning on eating in anyway. Also surely he wasnt going to be gone all night. JS
No why didn’t you just order food for you and sister kid
Communication goes a long way
A nasal polyp and you desperately needed your sister AND your husband?Come on that’s OTT,even without the fact his brother is obviously seriously sick🤦ps if I was your sister I’d be raging:smirk:love time alone with my sister’s
Yes…clearly you have no idea about kidney failure and dialysis that is actually debilitating…having ivs the size of garden hoses inserted into his arm and filtering all the toxins from his entire blood volume…get a grip. Hopefully his brother will be ine of the lucky ones to get a transplant instead of dying on dialysis
I suppose I’d be upset too. I’d tell my husband how rude he is n then suggest3d he goooooo
Why not just all go out?
Yes, your feelings are valid. Men tend to be less empathetic and sensitive. It’s maddening that they need to be told to help what is needed, and some of them are just plain common sense. It never helps because we women always writhe with guilt and we think if every single thing needs to be told only u’ll move your ass, then it’s petty and calculative we end doing everything our own eventhou we are bleeding and suffering inside. It’s up to u when to draw the line thou. It’s hard living with someone who is completely oblivious to your pain and suffering
I personally wouldn’t of been upset. My husband would have called to make sure we didn’t already have plans.
Why couldn’t you gone with him and eaten together as a family! Yes I think you overreacted.