Do I have a right to feel left out by my husbands family?

My husband’s family invited him to join them for a fishing trip. It’s a place he’s never been. I’m excited that he gets to go w them. But what I’m having a problem with is that his parents r paying everyone’s way, including 2 of his son’s friends to go, but the only way I could go is if I came up with 1500 dollars. Am I making a big deal out of nothing or what? Bc, I’m feeling extremely left out and hurt that everyone gets to go but me. What do I do? Bc I am very excited that he’s going bc he’s always wanted to go and never got to bc of work issues. I have been very supportive and helping him pack and letting him talk about it. But inside it kills me that I can’t go.

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Wives should come before the friends, I would think. I see married couples as joint. If I invite one, I’m 100% inviting the other too. That’s kind of bullshit and props to you for being the bigger person about it

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Wow!! That would piss me off too as well…
Did u ask why u werent n the trip!??

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They can pay for your sons friends? Would feel left out big time x

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I would be mad at everyone. Have you told your husband you want to go? I would be pissed at him if he knew I wanted to go and went anyway without you.

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You have a right to feel however you feel. It’s good that you’re being supportive. I do think it’s fair if they were paying his way that they would want y’all to pay for yours. That’s quite a lot of money they are spending on everyone but I understand you feeling left out cause I could never afford that and would not be able to go. I don’t think the sons friends are relevant but I’m sure you feel they were chosen over you. No great advice here but I understand how you are feeling.

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You have every right to feel the way you do.

Wait why is your husband even ok with going? You havent out right said that he asked you if it were ok so that’s enough to piss any wife off! And I dont get mad often

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You have every right to feel the way you do. I personally would just save my money and go to a dang spa to have some personal momma time and enjoy the silence and peace :joy:

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I don’t understand how friends get paid for but spouses don’t? I don’t have self control like that so I would have definitely bitched but told him to go because he wants to. Everyone deserves a break, but it’s still not right, and I would have brought that up. If you’re someone who likes to prove a point start doing your own things and exclude them. Maybe they will get the picture

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You have a right to feel how ever you feel but that is their money and they can spend it or not spend it any way they want. Honestly it sounds like you’re acting like a spoiled child who isn’t getting their own way.

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You say “2 of HIS sons friends”, so I assume you are a second wife or step mom??. Looks like they don’t see you as part of their family. How is the relationship outside of this?

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I have been treated the same way . It hurts deeply . I am so sorry !

This falls under the same category as “What other people say about me is none of my business” Because you have been made aware that others were not asked to contribute money to go, it’s obvious they wanted you to know that fact. I say if you want to go…call their bluff and pay your own way as if you would have expected this from the git go. Trust me, it will bother them more than you know. And smile, smile, smile!!!

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My husband wouldn’t have gone if I couldn’t go. Period.

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I would feel left out too but I probably wouldn’t say a thing till after he gets back. It’s great that you are being supportive of him going and having a good time. He needs that guy time to enjoy and then have thay conversation when he comes home.

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I could be wrong but it sounds like a guys trip🤷🏻‍♀️ I certainly would encourage it and grab a girlfriend to come over.

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Why are they paying for son’s friends but not for their DIL? My husband would at least offer not to go if that had ever happened. How is your relationship with in laws? Before this.

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Eh, I see differently than everyone. I’d be happy if my husband got to go somewhere he wanted to go and didn’t have to pay for it. Definitely sounds like a guys trip.:woman_shrugging:t2: let your husband enjoy his time, some of y’all kind of sound bitter lol.

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I was in the same boat 2 years ago turns out the ex was taking another woman on the holiday my ex and her now have a baby together he had us both pregnant at some time 9 weeks between them so yes I would be very upset at my husband and his parents

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