Please post anonymously I had my son two months ago, and ever since I have been feeling very self-conscious, I’ve asked my boyfriend not to masturbate to other women bc it feels like cheating to me and makes me insecure bc those women aren’t realistic and neither is the sex in the videos. I know I cannot ask him not to masturbate at all and that it’s healthy and normal, so I’ve offered to take some videos or pictures that he can use, so he still has his alone time. He turned me down and told me he didn’t want to masturbate so he didn’t want video or pictures and now I feel even more self-conscious that he turned it down and I also feel like I’ve created a problem in my relationship bc I’ve asked him not to watch porn or read sex stories. Am I in the wrong? Is it controlling to ask someone not to watch porn?
All guys watch porn.
Very unrealistic expectation for the guy
What happened to all the funny memes on this page?? It’s the reason I liked it. Some of these questions are just crazy
Un… Yeah you have a complete right to feel this way. He’s being highly disrespectful! If he wants to Jack it to other women so god damn bad, put his ass out to go find a 2 cent whore.
I would rather my man watch it then to go out and look for it …but 2 months post baby you should be able to have sex …men have needs just like any other human …
Guys in a relationship should not be watching porn. At all. Disgusting. Cheating.
If this isn’t something you talked about in the beginning of your relationship then you are in the wrong.
While I’ll never understand not wanting someone to watch porn if you feel that way you need to make it known asap. Most guys and a LOT of girls, myself included watch porn.
Wait so…you dont? Watch porn?
Your self confidence has hit low lovely.
You will regain it back over time.
I probably watch more porn than my man does.
No watching porn is form of cheating I mean some chicks dont care if the husband looks at other females or watch sick stuff but its gross
Uh no! If your not comfortable with it he shouldn’t do it I would be upset too he’s basically telling you he’d rather watch other women on the screen do it then you do it
…watch porn with him …
Like you said it’s fake, so what’s the problem? Watching porn is not cheating.
Watch it with him, figure out what he’s into, and surprise him one night with some different things
Is this even a real question??..Seriously
We don’t allow that in our home… Its a respect we both request and it works for us. Your feelings are valid and he isn’t respecting you
Post partum hormones are crazy and the self-conscious feelings are totally normal. I think maybe you need to have a conversation about things he could do to help you feel better but I dont think it’s right to take something that’s harmless that he enjoys. I felt really self conscious after my daughter and I think it’s important you do things to make yourself feel better as well and not just expect him to (exercise, yoga, tanning, etc).
Some women are okay with it some aren’t. If he respects you and your wishes he will stop. If he feels addicted to it, he can get help.
If watching porn is cheating, what about those harlequin romance novels? People who worry about their SO watching porn may be too insecure.