Do I have a right to upset about this incident with my step-daughters mom?

I step stepmom, , and it’sits our week to have four years old. We run into a mom at Walmart. We say our highs, and I can tell after 20 minutes of mom saying," I miss you so much" and “I wish I could take you to work with me” I see a meltdown coming. I tell her alright I think we need to go. It’s just going to get worse. Well, of course, mom comes back 3x, and I’m dealing with a full-on meltdown. I leave everything in the store and get ready to leave when mom pulls up to my car. I tell her no, it’s just going to make it worse when she says that my daughter and goes in my car anyways. Of course, a full-on screaming meltdown ensued. Do I have a right to be upset? I stepmom, and it’s our week to have four years old. We run into a mom at Walmart. We say our highs, and I can tell after 20 minutes of mom saying," I miss you so much" and “I wish I could take you to work with me” I see a meltdown coming. I tell her alright I think we need to go. It’s just going to get worse. Well, of course, mom comes back 3x, and I’m dealing with a full-on meltdown. I leave everything in the store and get ready to leave when mom pulls up to my car. I tell her no, it’s just going to make it worse when she says that’s my daughter and goes in my car anyways. Of course, a full-on screaming meltdown ensued. Do I have a right to be upset?

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No u have no right to b upset that’s HER child u r the step mom she missed her daughter

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I see a concern, but its her daughter too…but did she just see the daughter or take her away oooorrrrrr

I wouldnt be upset. That’s normal for a 4yo honestly I’d be more upset if she left her child screaming to go party or something.
Sounds like she loves her and misses her and is trying to be a good mom.

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You have zero right here. Thats her mom!!!

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Yes, we would all feel upset but that’s part of being a stepmom. You don’t have the right to tell her not to do this.

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I’d talk to her. Tell her it stresses you to see the child so upset and ask her what she thinks you can do to coparent together to come to a resolution that is best for the child. There is always mediation

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that was ridiculously hard to read and admin should proof read before posting

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When my kids are at their dads I DO NOT CALL even if its during a bday/holiday its is THEIR time. Yes I miss my SO much but it is their time. I also dont call bc I know what could/would happen, a melt down. If she got into your car after you said no YES be pissed, that is trespassing.

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No you have no right to be concerned. You are her step mom. Her bio mom birthed her. She has every right to talk to her child. Period

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I think you have every right to be upset. Following because I’m curious on what other people’s opinions are to this. It’s your week with her not hers. You had to deal with the meltdown not her.

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You have absolutely no right to be. You sound like the bitter type who needs to get over herself.

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Normal 4 year old behavior. Meltdowns happen. Just imagine yourself in her shoes. Let her be a mom. It might bother you but the child’s feelings matter.

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How weird… I would be weirded out by YOU if I were that child’s mother.

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As a mother, If I see my child in a store with her father or fathers gf I will absolutely walk up to my child to say hello and give my love. We don’t do it to upset our child but how can we walk past our child and ignore that we see them? As a mother we want to give love as much as we can.

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I would be upset a parent that really wants their child to have quality time with their other parent would avoid at all costs. The last thing I would want to do is upset my child while seeing their father. Honestly it’s a power trip most moms get to try and say see my kid loves me more. It is harmful to a child emotionally and hurtful.

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I dare u to tell me I cant talk to my child… if u dont like go to a store further out

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I’m gonna say you do have a right to be upset. I understand it’s her mom but her mom knows when the tantrums are triggered and continued until it happened! Why would you do that to your child. It sounds like it was intentional. Knowing my daughters meltdowns I wouldn’t want to trigger one.

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You’re in the wrong. If that was your biological kid with their step parent, and you seen them having a melt down you would go there to make sure your kid is alright. I know it might seem annoying but you need to get over that. That is her child, and sometimes they just want their mom, and you need to understand that.

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She had no n right to get in your CAr

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