Do you think my friend can fix her relationship?

My friend asked me to ask on here… she cheated on him before they had kids, now they fight constantly about the time… now he’s doing sneaky stuff to her… she wants to be a family and move on from the past(they have two kids under 2), but he still calls her down about the time… do you think it could work out.? Remind you he’s doing it now to her while they have a family of their own.

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He obviously can’t move past what she did to him and if he can’t than it’s not going to work.

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Nope they need to end it if they can’t sort it out both are bad as each other and it’s toxic and unhealthy for the kids and both adults

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If you can’t let go of the past and there’s no trust between them, and I’d say no reason to continue.

There is no difference between cheating before or after kids…Maybe after the score board is tied they won’t have anything to fight about…

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This sounds like me and my ex and that’s gonna be a no. Too toxic

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Did she just tell him now? After marriage and kids? Because if its new information, of course hes going to need time to process it all. Hes been believing in a lie about the woman he married.
Of course, its never good to cheat in or out of marriage so don’t think I think what he’s doing is right. But he’s obviously going to need time to process this bomb.
There’s no way to tell, but to give it more time. If they can both live with it now.

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Nope. If someone can’t 100% get over the cheating, things will never work. Trust is a huge part of the foundation of a healthy relationship.

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Probably won’t work. Because of what she did he’s always going to keep that in his head that’s why he keeps bringing it up. He lost her trust. I’m the same way it’s hard to get over it and move on so you just stay together and keep throwing it at her what she did

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He has not and doesn’t seem to want to forgive her. This is super toxic and the kids deserve better.

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They can try counseling…but if he can’t look past the past…nothing will get better.

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If he didn’t ‘get over it’ before, he isn’t now. He’s only staying for the kids. He’s not happy whatsoever.

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Why put yourself through the stress? The way he is acting, he will never get over it. She should move on.

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If he can’t let it go and keeps bringing it up then the chances are is no it won’t work out. He has to be willing to forgive and move past it. She broke his trust as well.

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Nope. He won’t let it go. Co parent amicably and move on, hopefully with a lesson learned. Cant fault him for being damaged because of her bad choice

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They both have a lot to work on if it is going to work. Either you guys trust eachother or you don’t, can’t have a decent relationship without jt

Have they tried marriage counseling? They both seem childish, immature, impulsive and poor communicators. Maybe if they could learn how to think more before they act and how to talk things out sensibly things could change, but they’d both have to be open to listening and both would have to put in the hard work.

Even if they split up, it’d be worth learning how to discuss things like adults instead of fighting.

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He obviously can’t. They should serperate. It only gets worse.

No. Sounds like nothing moved forward besides having children.

Keeping score and holding grudges will not help in any way… Thay need to both want the relationship with each other and counseling will help but kiss or not if they aren’t both in and want it work out it’s just not going to and there isn’t anything to be done. They have to both put in the work and get what they want.

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