Does anyone have in laws that buy you too many things?

Does anyone have family or in-laws or whatever that overbuy useless stuff for you when you’re pregnant? I’m not trying to come off ungrateful or anything; I’m really not. But with my first daughter, people bought crib sets that I made it clear that I wouldn’t use, super fancy outfits for when they are super tiny, baby costumes, baby sneakers, giant stuffed animals, novelty pacifiers, etc. they continue to overbuy for her now that she’s older too. So many toys and clothes and so much stuff. I asked this year that for her birthday and Christmas, if they feel the need to buy her gifts, they purchase books for her.

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Let them spoil her? What’s the issue? If it was your family would it be a problem?

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Really… they buy you too much lol. Step away from the keyboard until you find some actual problems.

You could donate some of the unwanted stuff to a woman’s shelter as well.

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My inlaws are kinda like that. I won’t ever tell them not to buy my daughter something though. She’s the first granddaughter on my husband’s side so they are all super excited about being able to buy girl stuff. Plus both of my parents have passed away so I’m going to let them spoil her. It’s not hurting anyone, and they’re all happy.

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My in laws have bought my son about 5 things in his year and a half of life lmao. Donate the extras to people who need or want them.

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Oh good gawd!!! “People are over buying for my child!!! Please someone make the insanity stop” really??? Its hurting u or your child that your child is loved??? Go on somewhere with this bullcrap! Are u attention seeking?

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I am that person ! I over buy for everyone though. I am a couponer and get great deals so why not spread the wealth ?

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I would love this problem lol be grateful you have someone who is willing to dote on him/her I don’t have that luxury as I’m sure others done either

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Also,if she too big for the stuf give it to someone who can use it

Damn… wish I had family that cared enough to spoil my kids with stuff.

I’m that Grandma I buy blankets bottles toys and my daughter was like mom u can stop now lol I still do it and he’ll never go without period girl take it and pass it other people that may need it or want it

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I know some are being harsh and I understand my kids get spoiled every holiday from all sides of the family and they have sooo much stuff they don’t use half of it but please don’t take for granted what others would die for I usually donate the stuff the would not play with or wear or you can take the stuff to once upon a child sell the stuff to buy books or something else she could everyone usually asks what my kids are into or need I’ve now gone to saying anything educational whether that be toys or books and you can never have enough clothes socks or bedding be reasonable

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Lol, I don’t see the problem ? If it’s stuff you won’t use , donate it ? Why don’t you keep some of the toys put away and swap them out with other toys ? There are plenty of things to complain about when it comes to family , I’m sure but THIS isn’t one of them. My mom buys my son and nephew entirely too much lmao but I’d never complain about it.

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Mine do. I’m so grateful for their thoughtfulness and consideration. I donate or sell anything we don’t use and keep the rest. :grin:

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I would just accept things with a smile and then not use what I didn’t need. My daughter had so many clothes, she wasn’t able to wear every single thing. I totally get it. I donated lots of stuff to people who needed them!

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She said its stuff she has no need for so yes she could donate it. But these people are continually buying this stuff, spoiling a child is not necessarily a good thing. If they want to buy her stuff that fine but instead of spending money on novelty things and set up a college fund or a fun trip with their grandbaby. Y’all are extremely negative towards other moms. She is not wrong in how she feels. No ones feelings are wrong because its their own feelings. If you want to spend money on your grandbabies fine but put it towards something that matters. Shes a baby she really doesn’t want for much. Im sorry people are acting this way towards you. Speak your mind to them respectfully. Tell them you appreciate that they help but make the help actually mean something.

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I would have been grateful, but you could suggest they start a college trust fund if they want to spend so much money on her, spending less on the now and more for her future would be a far better investment.

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Here’s some actual advice I stead of judgement…
Ask them to buy things she really needs. Just have a nice convo and say “we really appreciate how much you help us with getting the kid stuff, but maybe less stuffies and shoes. ( or whatever you’re tired of lol)

I have a small space and can’t stand alllll the toys piling up here and there. My daughters have so many stuffies they’ve looked at once since entering the house.

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My mother in law was like this, I swore i wasnt going to use pacifiers and was going to only use dr browns bottles if I coyldnt breast feed, I had a plan for almost every aspect. And after having my son I was majorly thankful she had bought pacifiers and mam brand botfles becauze that ended up being all my son liked after about 3 months old he wouldmt take anything but mam. She bought so many clithes, shoes, toes, etc that we had his entire first 2 years year from 1 month up completely covered we didnt have to buy anything (we still bought but we definitely didnt need to) she bought him a mamaroo and I thought it was kind of pointless at first as ive always seen kids that have swings/bouncers then hardly use them and it was a lifesaver it was the only way hed cakm down some days was to be put in it eithin 5 minutes hed rekax, she bought me a boba wrap which again at the point I fidnt think id use and ended up using it daily as he loved to be close but i had animals to care cor and a house to upkeep and having him in it lect my hands free and gave me total range of motion as compared to other carriers that are just too big for me to have motion as im a small woman. 3 years later hes still wearing some of the clothes shed had bought, still have the mamaroo for our next child, the boba wrap, the toys, the shoes, all of it weve ended up holding onto, other than some of his smaller clothes that wed give back to her as he outgrew and shed sell them and use that money for the next size up for him. Im forever grateful that she overbought because it helped us a ton especially in the beginning when we struggled financially for a bit trying to even out our budget with an added eprson to care for. I’ll never be uoset that she iverbought, I was at first but 3 years later I am so thankful that she did and still does at times.

I agree that would be super annoying! Especially if it’s things that the kids won’t use or don’t need. And you probably can’t just donate it like everyone is saying because they probably expect you to keep it and would be upset if you just gave it away! I would nicely tell them to only buy things the kids can use or need like clothing or books as you said. If it’s your in laws have your husband nicely talk with his parents. They are really just wasting their money when they could buy things your kids need.

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