Does it make me a bad mom to send my daughter to daycare?

I have a two year old daughter. I run my own in home daycare. My husband and I have been talking about maybe letting her go to a daycare that has a preschool like setting two days a week. Does this make me look like a bad mother? I love her to pieces but sometimes I need time. She has really bad anxiety when I leave to do anything whether I go to store or even step outside my house. What do I do?

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It’s a good idea she can gain some independence.

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Not at all ! I work at a daycare and we aren’t allowed to have our own in our class. Once the move to which ever room their parent teaches in the teacher is moved. So dont feel bad as in a licensed center you would have to put her elsewhere

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I think it’s a great idea twice a week. It gives him independence away from her own parents just like the other kids that attend your daycare are getting.

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Maybe take a step back from the in home daycare for a bit an focus on what’s making your daughters anxiety act up. That could be her way of getting your attention.

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Absolutely not! If you feel she needs to learn to be away from you and get into a pre-school setting to get ready for school… that makes you a great mom. You’re willing to separate from your daughter for her benefit!! And putting her needs above yours!! Way to go mom!!!

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Might be beneficial if you have no other kids in her age group. She can also gain indepence. If you can afford it do it.

The fact you want a preschool setting, I would send her to a preschool. A lot of church based preschool are part time and very involved . You can possibly do two days a week. That way she gets use to being around other kiddos with out mama.

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It would be good for her to have some time away from mom, I waited a year before I would let my daughter be babysat by my MIL, and honestly it made things better for my daughter and myself. She had someone else to learn from and she wasn’t as stressed when I left without her.

HER DAUGHTER HAS ANXIETY WHEN SHE LEAVES TO DO ANYTHING :roll_eyes::roll_eyes: it doesn’t make you a bad mom to send her to a different daycare so she can learn to slowly not be so attached to you! I know exactly how you feel. Just because she runs a daycare and wants to send her to a different daycare doesn’t make her a bad mom whatsoever. Yall ridiculous.

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No! do it let her interact with more kids and she will learn alot more!

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No it doesnt make you a bad mom. Sometimes you need a break from your own kid, especially if you are working.

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It would be a great experience for her , with going to preschool she may learn some independence.

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Yes I would- what you do is work- regardless of if it’s from home- don’t let any other mum belittle you. She will learn so much & in the end it will be great for her & you too…independence, fun & learning.
Where’s the harm in that?
Peoples comments piss me off- where is the love and support, happy to jump down someone’s throat whom you don’t even know :woman_facepalming:

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I know SEVERAL in home daycare providers who else do their kiddos to a daycare/preschool setting a couple days a week. It’s good for the kids to be away from mom and learn how to behave around other kids without their mom. As well as good for them to be away from home, as far as not on their own turf. It’s a neutral turf for everyone

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I fully credit daycare with my son being so independent. I don’t think some other posters understand that it’s so much more than someone just watching your child.

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I’m just going to go get a glass of water

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It’s great for her social development.

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I don’t think it’s a stupid question to ask.
Sometimes moms need a break from their own kids too.
Watching someone else kids is different from carrying for your own 24/7.
They get to go home and both parties get a break from one another til the next day.

But anyways as far as what your saying
Nope your not a bad mom
It’s better to have your child get use to being apart from you for a few hours out of the week. So when kinder starts they aren’t crying like crazy for the first few weeks.
I had a friend who did the same and she ran a daycare herself it helped out a lot for her daughter and her to get a break a few hours a week.
To learn how to be apart from her mom.

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I worked as a daycare teacher at one daycare and took my kids with me for a whole year it became alot so I put them in a different daycares few times a week it helped alot