Does it sound like I am wasting time in my relationship?

Late 30’s and he acts like that. I’d leave. Honestly it doesn’t seem like he is trying but at this point I think he is just gunna be like he is now for a long time

Hun, he will not change. He seems to be fine with how things are. You on the other hand don’t seem to be and you probably will not be until you are love the way you want to be and there is nothing wrong with that! You deserve the kind of love you long for, don’t settle. Also girl if your asking this, you probably already know what ya need to do, hun. Good luck.

Maybe play games with him? I understand gaming after work,it’s an escape from the responsibilities of life. Or try spending time with him doing things that make him happy, talk to him, explain your “love language “ and make it a point that both of y’all are considering the other

You cant change him. And im sorry, but im a mother of three. My kids had a say as to who i was with. They had to like him…and he also had to like them. Bottom line. Go now before too much more gets involved. You deserve that not only to yourself, but to your child as well. Good luck!

He sounds like he has a fear of committing. If you want more than what he’s giving you, talk about it and if he doesn’t plan to change, move on.

He was single for many many years … that tells you all you need to know

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A few things…
First, not everyone communicates the same way. We all have different love languages.
My husband is not a die-hard romantic. He’s really not into telling me how much he loves me and why…or waxing poetic. It used to bother me a lot. We’ve been together going on six years. First, if I’m feeling a little insecure or needing verbal…I simply ask. Do you love me? Why do you love me? Ect. When asked he answers.
Second, he tells me every day how much he cares by little things he does. Filling my water bottle at night before bed. Making sure my phone is plugged in and charging before bed. Covering me up with my favorite fuzzy blanket if I fall asleep uncovered. They’re arent grand gestures…but they matter every bit as much and maybe even more than words or grand gestures.
Take a second and look at his actions, not just his words. You might find he’s been “telling” you how he feels all along, even though he’s not using words.

Second, EVERYONE should have a hobby or something they do just for themselves to unwind or chill out. My husband has gotten into forging. He’ll spend hours out there. Not to stay away but because he loses himself in it and loses track of time. It’s ok. When I want attention from him…I say so. I read or write or craft. I loose myself in it sometimes. He jokes around that the house could burn and I wouldnt notice. Rather than being irritated he finds it an endearing part of me most of the time.

I would take some time and think about things from the perspectives I’ve mentioned before making a decision. Then decide if it’s enough or not. If not then yes you should end it. It’s not fair to either of you to continue.

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Walk away … Your children come first… I t seems he doesn’t care for you or your children .

LOSE THE MAN! He is wasting your time and seems like a major setback in your life. Wait for the right one that will woo you, love you, respect you, appreciate you and make you feel like you are the most sublime person on this earth and in his life. :two_hearts:

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He is not the one for you, be strong , leave now before this destroys you.

Leave now. take it from someone who has experienced it first hand, it does not get any better. The fact that he does not take an active interest in spending time with you is one thing, you have a choice in that but to not take an interest in your child is something your little one doesn’t get a choice about and it probably doesn’t feel very good for your child.