Does my fiance have a chance of getting full custody of his kids?

Does my fiance have a chance of getting Full custody of his son? My fiance and I provide everything for his son. OUR son, I should say. He is 11 years old and its been us buying school clothes, shoes, school supplies, medicine when sick. Every holiday we had him and all of a sudden bio mom’s husband is out of prison, and she wants to play perfect mom getting him more and us less, yet we are still providing everything for him. Our son Liam has everything he needs here, and we help provide for him at her house. My soon to be husband doesn’t think he has a chance in a courtroom but doesn’t fill he need to pay child support as she is requesting now for hygiene items for her house. Also, my fiance’s mother provides at bio mom’s house when she needs anything there, for she is not contributing to anything.

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The judge will decide

All you can do is take her for custody. Not sure what the current arrangement is. But someone will get visits reguardless…it depends how the the judge sees.things

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After 2 years of being out of the picture and if it was bad situation parental right can be terminated…

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Why wouldn’t he/you two have a chance? Document everything (especially dates). Go to the courthouse and see what needs to be done or talk to a lawyer-consults are usually free. If you have him like you say, child support should be lowered or non existent. I say give it a roll and see what happens. Good Luck!!

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First of all, it’s not YOUR child, it’s your fiance’s. I get that you help take care of him, which makes you a stepparent. Two, your fiance should provide for his child. It’s his child. Are you really petty enough to keep score as to who provided what? It’s for the good of the child. If your fiance feels it’s uneven then he can pay child support instead of providing gifts for his child. Three most courts will side with the mother. You have to prove gross neglect or extreme abuse. It’s unfair, but it’s true. If he takes his child’s mother to court over custody and loses the court will mandate child support unless he gets 50/50 custody.

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If he wants any chance under the sun. I suggest keep paying child support and make sure payments stay accurate. Do not let child support go into arrears. If there is a custody agreement and you both agreed that the children stayed with you for such and such time. You probably won’t be able to use that against her in court.

Have yall kept receipts. He is 11 now correct. He can decide where he wants to live. Go to court he has a chance always.

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You don’t get what you don’t ask for. If he wants custody he should go for it.

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Anything’s possible… Get everything in your life on track and make sure there’s no reason a judge would give him full custody

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Honestly sounds like bio mom is a pos! Document it all, as long as there is proof you absolutely have a chance, find a good attorney, and since your son is 11 he is old enough to speak on his behalf as well. Judge will take all that into consideration!! Good luck !

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BRING PROOF! Receipts, documents, ALL OF IT! You have to prove that YOU will benefit the child better than the mother. Focus on the child and not throwing lol under the bus, but be prepared! Get a lawyer, and DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!

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He wants to stop paying child support over providing extra at the child’s other house. That’s sad

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All these keyboard attorneys really amaze me, i wounder what cereal box they got their law degrees from?

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Tell your husband to start keeping every and I meant every receipt when he buys your son anything and tell his mom to do the same. (Talking about your soon to be husband’s mom) that way he and his mom have proof that they are providing everything for your son.

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I suggest keeping a journal of EVERYTHING, receipts for EVERYTHING. If the time ever comes he will have to provide proof of what he provides. Does he not pay child support tho. If he doesn’t unfortunately he should pay half of all his needs regardless.

I think he wants to stop helping as much at the bios moms house. Now that he is not getting the child as like he was.

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So your fiance doesnt pay support but just buys him clothes? You spend christmas with him? And that makes him your son?
I dont get what shes done that’s so wrong.

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He’s not your son. You didn’t birth him. You’re not legally responsible for him. That additude just causes friction between you & his real mother.

Second so you think because your boyfriend goes the extra mile & makes sure his son has what he needs he deserves custody? He chooses to purchase extra. I’m sure she doesn’t hold a gun to his head. He’s being a responsible father. Think about it like this. There’s a lot of moms who pack everything the child will need while dad has them. Clothes, diapers, toiletries, sometimes even food, blankets/sleeping bag & more. She can’t get visitation taken from him because she chooses to provide those things. It’s her choice. Just like it’s your boyfriend’s choice to provide for his son at her house. Now if he wasnt provided for in her home in someway there could be an investigation. If it turns out that she can’t provide financially but he’s been buying it all for years the judge could raise his child support. Or she could be charged with neglect & y,our boyfriend could get custody. However YOU will NEVER get custody.

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He can go for full custody or at the least 50/50 and if the boy is certain age not sure where you are but he should be able to have a say

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