Does this seem like a good idea to tell my dad that I am pregnant?

I’m 15 weeks pregnant with my first child. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, though it has not been without its struggles. We don’t have a lot of money, and my Dad has always looked down on my boyfriend for not being able to provide for me the way he feels he should (he has a stable job, it’s just not a get rich kind of job which is fine by me). Lately, my Dad seems to be warming up to him, but I’m still nervous that he still won’t react well to this news. I made him a Christmas ornament with my ultrasound picture and put it in a cute Christmas box to give him, and that’s how I’m planning to tell him. Do you think this is a good plan? Should my bf be there, or should I keep it just my Dad and me? Any additional advice would be welcomed!! I’m freaking out a bit!!

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Do it in private, just you and your dad.

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You’ll have to tell him your going to start showing… He loves you he will help.

it would help to know her age…

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I was nervous to tell my family with my 1st for similar reasons and I had myself worked up for nothing. My family was excited and supportive and I’m sure your dad will come around as well. You may want to tell him prior to Christmas you’re going to be showing by then

I think that it would be a good idea for your boyfriend to be there when you give him the ornament. That way he can see that your boyfriend is supporting you emotionally through this and that he’s beside you. The ornament is a really adorable idea. I’m sure he will be happy to be a grandpa :slight_smile:

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I would definitely say to have your boyfriend there. Take him out to dinner…public place less chance of a argument breaking out. Then he will be able to go home and sleep on it. He will come around.

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Sounds like a great idea do it with your bf there , you should definitely tell your dad how you feel and express your feelings. Either way the baby is coming he can either get with the program or miss out on some great moments!

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If you are over 18 and living with your boyfriend then it really doesn’t matter if your dad gets upset or not. If you are happy and your bf treats you right and will be a good father then live your life.

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This isn’t about your dad, this is between you and your boyfriend the last thing you want to do is make it uncomfortable for your boyfriend and your dad. Do this with you and him keep it private this is a moment you want to remember it should be a happy moment. Good Luck and congratulations.

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Hunny I was married seven yrs n had a heck of a time n got pregnant nervous scared but 29 yrs later all’s good ;”) it’ll be ok :+1: every parent does want the best for their kids n needs to accept what we choose n happy with also !!

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calm down and it would make a great present make him a shirt saying papa or grandpa

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Great idea. All 3 be there

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I would do this just you and him, especially if your daddys little girl. Take him out to dinner maybe. I dont know that i would wait till Christmas however

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also if your boyfriend isn’t providing for you properly now would be the time to step up. Your dad has his reservations for a reason

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Sweetie, my dad an I didn’t had a relationship when my son came to this world. He was the first visit at the hospital and always there for both of us. Don’t be afraid, he is your dad!

I think your boyfriend needs to step it up and get a better job or get a 2nd job to prepare for this child and hopefully you’re working too, can’t blame your dad for wanting better for you. Just know you made this decision and y’all better not ask him for a dime to help you two on a decision you both made. A child costs a lot of money which you two don’t really have. This should have been thought out better. Just don’t try to put any responsibility on your dad when he clearly warned you. And if you think he’s gonna be upset, why try to do it on a holiday like that? I think it’s an ignorant idea , but so are your choices. You wanted opinions you got mine. Good luck with that child and i hope u and the dad step up to give the child everything he or she deserves and more.

Are you and your b.f. open to getting married? That might soften the blow a bit. Also protect you and your new baby.

Don’t surprise him if they were never on good terms, and yes your boyfriend needs to be there because that shows that he is going to be the responsible dad he needs to be. Don’t surprise your dad on Christmas because just in case he isn’t happy the day won’t be spoiled, tell him Christmas eve this way if he’s okay with it, yal will have something great to tell everyone else. Good Luck, keep us posted.

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Keep it as personal as possible. You and. Dad . The father need not be there. What can he add to the proceedings . Can you confide to a
Trusted female like an female mature woman. Give your dad time to adjust to the idea when you talk with him. Let me ask ? I do not know how old you are and the boy friend is ? This is a critical detail, age 16/17 vice 13. Understand??? Seek the counsel of an mature female relative who can support you and encourage you. You might have this third person present when you share the news. Why? It difuses any problems and reactions. You do not have to go it alone ! Furthermore, you must understand having this child will alter your path in life . Listen!! If Your present day “boy friend” in the near future leaves you alone to bear this child then what? Are you willing to give this baby a chance to live and keep it moving yourself?? A live birth is a blessing . Think about all of this ! See! Black Males these days are like the wind , here today and gone tomorrow. You must consider this as well. So dear person. Take a deep breath and think through all I have said . Having a child is serious business. Nevertheless, you need counseling. And the help of a mature female member like an aunt,grandmother and mother if so be. Do not go it alone. Bless you. And the child.