Does your husband compliment you?

Hey mommas, so I’m curious to know, do yalls husbands compliment yall on a daily basis or at least one time a week? If not, are yall OK with it? I’ve been married for six years now, and my husband NEVER compliments me. Don’t ever call me beautiful or even cute, not even when I dress up. When we first got together he uses to say sweet stuff like I was pretty and beautiful, and I was always insecure and said he was just saying that cause it was the beginning of our relationship, so he stopped saying it ever since. But that was six years ago. I’ve asked him why he doesn’t ever compliment me and he says cause I told him that in the beginning and laughs it off and starts talking about something else. Our sex life seems good, he always wants it, but then again, that could just be a man thing… Idk what else to say to him to make him see that I’d like to hear nice compliments from my husband. He’s always told me it’s not about looks when it comes to being with someone, so I shouldn’t care if he does or doesn’t like something about my appearance

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My husband compliments me all the time. We’ve been together for 12 yrs

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All the time. We have been together 15 years:)

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No my husband did in the beginning. Now he slip out compliment once in a blue moon.

I’ve been with my husband for 17 years married for 11 year this and he dose but it doesn’t so he’ll say something sweet to be six months and then I might pop out again haha but he is not a talker like that he dose it more in in Touching his various sexual touching like that and he’s not a great talker with things like this is dirty talk is terrible so I just take the signs when this I’m wearing something he likes he gets all touchy-feely and if he doesn’t he look at me and then you turn away I know it’s like I don’t wary maybe your husband might be that way have you ever paid attention to his is I contact with you when you try things on and maybe see if that helps otherwise talking about it more with him you gonna have to go in deep on it and then he’s gotta know it hurts you can’t can’t just let this one go but I do hope you can work it out all the luck in the world :purple_heart::smiling_face_with_three_hearts::clinking_glasses:

My hubby compliments me,grabs and kiss me all the time…17 years and counting

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Husband does it multiple times a day. We’ve been together for 14 years and married for 2 years this coming June

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14 years together and I still wake up to a good morning beautiful text. He goes to work way before I get up he tells me I’m beautiful all day long when he answers my calls or talking. He either calls me love, beautiful.

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when he thinks about it lolol

Been with my husband 13 years and married nearly 8. Always getting compliments from him. I don’t know if i would be able to be with someone who didn’t make me feel good.

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Every day. Been together 6 years married for 2

My husband and i have been together for 4 years and he still tells me im beautiful every single day

Compliments are definitely rare. Sometimes get feelings hurt bc will work hard putting on makeup so look good,only for him to tell me he doesn’t like me wearing makeup. It is so aggravating sometimes. I can run my butt off doing stuff and some days he asks why I didn’t do this or that when he been sitting on his butt all day. Not a bad guy. Just a little insensitive and aggravating at times. My hubby wants sex every day as well. May all just be a standard man thing.

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Pretty much every day.

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We both do this. Together 10 years :heart: and we compliment our kids everyday as well.

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7 years married and yes everyday I get compliments

I might get a compliment once every 8 months or so :disappointed: together 17 years, married for 10 years.

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My boyfriend calls me beautiful and sexy every day, been together for 5 1/2 years.

Every. Single. Day. When I wake up and look like a swamp witch and when I look like Aces. He’ll call me beautiful more often than my name
We are celebrating 10 yrs this October

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Absolutely everyday! We give each other compliments :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Married 17 years. Honey, the Male ego is FRAGILE. It may have been six years ago, but you insulted his sincerity and made it clear that him complimenting you made you uncomfortable. He heard you and RESPECTED you and stopped!! Now you tell him that you want the compliments- any guys internal “warning” system is going to go off… Tell him why you said that six years ago and why you want to hear compliments now. Then, you give it TIME. Men process things differently. Maybe start giving him more compliments too. Keep in mind, you are the one wanting to change things- and you just told him HE is the one that needs to change. Give it time- change takes time.

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All day every day he compliments me

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Wish he does. He compliments on other females on his facebook :pleading_face:

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Who cares farout after a year the honeymoons over :joy: so if he calls you honey or beautiful after a year take that as a bonus Lmao :rofl::joy:

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Some guys think we already know.

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Have you tried complimenting him more? Maybe he’ll catch on :laughing:

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Does she show you in other ways?? Ive been with my husband 17yrs now and he doesn’t always complement me, but life’s busy and when we get a quiet moment to ourselves, we might share a cuddle or hold hands in the car or on the couch, or he’ll tap my bum.
Try looking into his and your love languages

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My husband and I have been together almost 6 years. Its always a “good morning beautiful” text every morning he is on the road. And when I bend over, he yells “compliment”.

Nope my hubby doesn’t do sweet stuff like that if u walked in our home you’d think we hate each other just who we are it bugged me when we was younger but now not so much I do miss romance but it what it is

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My husband compliments me numerous times a day. He has done this for 15 years.

My husband and I have been together 14 years and I can’t think of day he hasn’t complimented me. Tell him you need him to compliment you, not just physically but in the things you do. It feels so good when my husband tells me he appreciates everything I do and finds me sexy.

My bf definitely compliments me everyday. Sometimes i KNOW I dont look good. But he will always compliment me anyway. Pretty, cute, hot, tells me my skin looks great today, or hair, or that i have a great butt. :sweat_smile: it makes me feel nice. But hes always been this way. I was with an ex for 10 years and he hardly complimented me… my current only 4. So much nicer.

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When my husband I are first got together it was everyday. But as we grew together and spent everyday together, it slowed down a lot. When I get into bad states of mind he does a lot. Usually though it when I get new clothes (hardly ever I hate buying things for myself) he will complement how it looks on me. Honestly everyone is different. Talk to your spouse about it.

You told him at the beginning you didn’t believe him, so he stopped. Why would you believe him if he started now?

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Me and my husband have been together 12 years and married for 11, he compliments me on a daily basis. He’s the only one that’s ever complimented me like that

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Nahhhh mine likes to insult me on a regular basis. I swear he loves me tho

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Do you compliment him? Maybe if you start doing so, he will start doing the same.

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Together almost 10 years and my husband almost never compliments me. Huge insecurities for me…

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Mine compliments me every day, sometimes multiple times a day. Been together 6 years.

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I’ve been with my husband 6 years married 5 and he always compliments me, whistles at me, grabs onto me. He always makes sure to compliment me several times a day. And if I do something different with my hair, makeup, or clothes he makes sure to say something about it. And every time we’re out somewhere he does little things that he says shows everyone he’s got the best there is. I’ve always been insecure and he’s known that from the beginning. He tells me I don’t need to be like boyfriends/husbands normally do. But he makes sure he shows he really does believe the things he tells me and he is being completely honest with his compliments. Honestly I would suggest try talking to your husband like be open and honest. Like just a nice casual sit down face to face talk. And tell him sometimes you would like to get compliments! Explain to him how you feel! Every night my husband and I lay in bed and we talk about things. Some nights are different conversations but it has really helped us understand each other a lot better. Talking has helped us through a lot because we don’t know how the other feels or what they are thinking. Conversations and communication help!

Mine don’t do alot of complements, his love language is time together, act of service like building me things, and bringing me home my favorite drink and candy bar from the gas satation. It’s the little things. Married almost 21 years.
Every relationship is different, some people use lots of compliments and flattery, some people give gifts some people give their time.
If you are love language is words of affirmation then he should hear you and help show you love in your love language. But also keep an eye out for love in his own language Because that is his most comfortable and where you will see it most often.

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My husband is the same way!:unamused: he never ever compliments me

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If you need something from a relationship you should be able to express that. And if your husband loves you he will listen.

Me and my partner have been together for 12 years. I get ginger jokes daily​:joy::joy: he won’t say aww you look nice babe, but I know he is thinking it coz I can see him looking at me or he’ll whistle at me something like that :slightly_smiling_face: xx

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My husband just figured out that health can be a complement, the right fitting bra, and telling me that I need to get my check ups. With mental health and physical health can make the family (not just the woman) happy. Made me realize that I am not complementing him too.

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Yep he does every day. We’ve been together 9 years and married for 6 years.

Had a partner that did this. My current partner is the reason I think I’m beautiful now. It’s not you, it’s him.

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People aren’t mind readers. If you want something, you have to make it perfectly clear. Sit him down and tell him that your insecurities don’t mean you never want to be complemented, but the exact opposite in fact - You want to be complemented as it makes you feel good.

But if you want it? You have to accept it, then. You can’t blow it off, you can’t argue/say you’re not whatever he says, tell him he’s wrong, ect.

You made it seem like you didn’t want complements in the past- You have to make sure his efforts to complement you are appreciated now, otherwise you’ll end up upsetting and hurting him if he tries because you asked, and then he will probably never try again - As that will be twice then that you’ve made him feel he can’t/shouldn’t complement you.

I’m insanely insecure with myself to the point that it’s the core of all of our fights (my insecurities have caused a lot of other problems like codependency, jealousy, posession, ect), and I’m in therapy to try and correct it (as well as a couple other things). When my husband complements me, which he does almost daily, I don’t believe it most of the time… But I force myself to accept what he says, and I try to believe that, if he says it, it must be true for him at the very least. And in reality, his opinion of me is the only one that matters, outside of my own opinion. If he thinks I’m amazing, cute, silly, wonderful, ect, I must be.

It’s hard to accept. But you cannot fix yourself and start thinking positively if you only allow negativity in your life.

If he does trust you enough to start complementing you again when you tell him you want/need it, start believing him, even if you don’t feel that way about yourself.

We don’t see the “us” that other people see. So trust and believe that what he tells you, is his version of you. Believe and trust that he’s being honest otherwise you’ll end up driving both of you crazy.

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Find the love language of your men so y’all stop complaining. Seems like his love language is sex isnt it? If he doesnt want to have sex with u then thats when u need to feel alarmed. Otherwise, if youre getting the D that means u look attractive in his eyes and he loves you. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Look up Love languages👌

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Mine doesn’t compliment me very much anymore but will do special things for me randomly or have flower’s delivered to me when I’m having a bad day etc. We’ve been together for 7 years. He still shows affection towards me in some way. I leave him a reminder note in the morning most days to grab his lunch etc and i always add a little compliment on it for him reminding him that i love him and that he has a nice butt…lol every relationship is different and every person is different, we show love and affection in our own ways. If you need to hear compliments, let him know that you would like him to compliment you more often and why it’s important for you to hear compliments.

I’ve been married over 50 years, and in that time he has complimented me maybe 5 times without being prodded. It is terribly hurtful.

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The problem is that you shot him down in the beginning when he use to give you compliments… If I give my husband compliments, I mean it and I love it when he accepts it for what it is and the same other way around… I accept his compliments and live like I am the most beautiful woman because for my husband I am… If I give him compliments and he shots me down evert time with stuff like: whatever, you’re only saying that for this and this reason etc. I will eventually stop to compliment him because he doesn’t believe me anyway… But we both believe and accept it and he gives me compliments daily (even when I look and feel like sh*t)

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We was at work yesterday and he goes sorry I got distracted and I ask him by what. He looks at dead in the eye and goes. “Dat ass” :joy::joy::joy:

It’s the hidden compliments he does. Plus our love language doesn’t need a verbal confirmation

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Tell him that’s what you want 🤷🏽‍♀

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Its called honey moon period at start, then your relasionship moves to real life. If your hubby loyal, listens, hard working and faithful you have a good relasionship. Me & hubby now on 20 yrs. We dont compliment each other on everything. Maybe thankyou when we help each other etc. Its the everyday little things he does shows me his love and so on.

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Start complimenting him and then maybe he’ll start.

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Tell him
I told my guy, been together 11yrs. Also its not always the compliments but little things like butt grabbing or skull fucking lol. Maybe start doing it to him. Smack his butt and growl lol :kissing_cat: u might get him starting something new.

Been with my husband 18 years and he still calls me beautiful/princess everyday.

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Yes but that’s because I told him I like it etc communicating is key to get what you want in a relationship and if the other person doesn’t want the same or denying you of love compliments etc then that’s not right x

My love is a sweet sweet man does it daily. Just tell him I only said what you said out of insecurity- and loved the way he made feel about yourself when he did say stuff to you.

After 10 years I still get told he loves me most days

Everyday for the past 4yrs

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Him: You’re beautiful.
You: I hate when you do that. Stop it.
Him: Ok.
[6 years later (in a French accent)]
You: Dear everyone, my husband never compliments me because I told him to stop and now I’m sad.
Everyone:

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I’ve been married almost 3 years and my hubby compliments me daily. I’m pregnant right now so he does it a lot more :slightly_smiling_face: I’m the same way- I just shoot him down and never know how to take compliments, but it would never stop him from doing it. He’s way too in tunes to me to stop lol I would just tell your hubby that you’d like him to do it!

Do you compliment him? It’s a two way street…

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Almost everyday, and we are married 9.5 years.

Absolutely!! We have been married (7 years October ) 14 year’s total together. He compliments me every single day💕 We still text each other good morning every morning also. It’s the little things that count.

Men want to know what they do is appreciated. I still after ten yes if marriage tell my husband ty for taking me to dinner or thanks for lunch or even when he thinks of me on his way home after 12-16 hr work days… he picks up white chocolate Carmel cappuccinos. It’s little things.

Also, we teach ppl how to treat us.

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Yes. Married 27 (28 in June) years and he still calls me beautiful.

Yes my husband does all the time daily mostly. we have been together 20 years.

I once asked hubby for a complement, he told me i had a nice personality, haven’t asked since :+1:t2:

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Everyday! And we have been together 7 and a half years!

7yrs together… Yes he compliments me still.

If you want your husband to compliment you, then ask him to. Don’t ask why he doesn’t - he gave you that answer and it’s because you refused to accept the compliments earlier on. It’s disheartening as a partner when you compliment your SO and they tell you that you’re just doing it to be nice or because it’s early on in the relationship. Why would anyone want to continue if that’s the response they get.:woman_shrugging: If you want compliments explain to him that you would like to hear them from time to time - and then accept and say thank you when he gives them.

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My husband rarely uses my name. He always addresses me as Hey Beautiful!

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My husband and I both call each other handsome/beautiful every week. We even throw in some “you’re doin fantastic” lol Compliment each other. If not idk wtf lol

Tell him that you don’t feel the way you used too when you would brush him off, in fact, now you feel like you need more reassurance. If he respected you not wanting compliments back then, I’m sure with an explanation he’d be just as understanding!

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Every single day, many times per day and we’ve been married for 10 yrs. I think you need to have a serious conversation with him, like have date night and open up and explain to him exactly how this makes you feel. Blessings!

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Barely ever. Once in a while. Yea it sucks but “you can lead a horse to water but can’t make it drink” :woman_shrugging:t3:

I’ve been with my husband for 7 years. He compliments me and can’t keep his hands off me. I would be upset if he didn’t.

He squeezes my bum, gives me random kisses and cuddles. That’s his way of complimenting me. I also compliment him, too. It works both ways x

My ex never did and then i dated a guy and he told me i was beautiful i was never used to have compliments and i didnt know what to say :see_no_evil:

All day long and I do the same. Been together almost 20 years

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Seems as though he might of gotten tired of hearing “you only say that because”. Have a little talk with him and tell him that from time to time it would be nice to be told you look pretty, or your makeup is nice, etc. As long as he is still showing you attention, kindness and being a good husband then take it. Pick and choose your battles, but don’t make him feel like he isn’t being attentive enough as that might cause even more distance :confused:

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Just ask him for random compliments. Communication is key in relationships.

Pj Verdin , thankful for you baby :kissing_heart::hugs:

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I think he usually only compliments me when I’m dressed up 🤷 or like if I take some “hot” pictures and send them to him at work. But i don’t think he does compliment me very often otherwise but thats probably cause i honestly dont take any care in my appearance 🤷 I lounge around with my hair a mess in pjs all day so I don’t blame him for not thinking I look good lmao

You basically told him to stop so he did now you’re complaining because he did what you ask…mine tells me I’m beautiful, sexy, cute, adorable, funny, goofy, a goober (that one makes me laugh) & a bunch of other compliments…I do the same with him…my ex husband also still compliments me ( we are very close friends still) …I think wants you tell someone to stop they do out of being hurt or not wanting to feel a certain type of way 💁
Start complimenting him & communicate better.

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4 years and he compliments me till I believe it which is damn near every hour :sweat_smile: the man will be at work and just randomly call me to tell me I look good even though he can’t see me

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So you told him to stop and he stopped? Why are you mad?

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My husband doesn’t give compliments hardly ever. But he is a grabby man and is constantly touching me and always doing things to make me smile or make my life easier. Our love languages are just different. Once we became aware of that we were able to enjoy.

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My husband use to say to more at the beginning been together almost 8 years… he does it here and there

My husband does every day multiple times a day and always smacks my butt or grabs me and kisses me.
If he didn’t compliment me at least once or twice a week, yes it would probably bother me.

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Have him take a look at the book “5 love languages” by Gary Chapman. ALL couples should read it. Helps you understand what you and your partner both need to make for a successful relationship.

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Honestly this sounds like “Stupid man Syndrome” as my grandma calls it :joy: He doesn’t realize it bothers you so he just keeps on vibing. I’d just tell him that it bothers you and it makes your self confidence tank when he says stuff like that. To me it sounds like he’s supportive but doesn’t know how to be lol

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My man compliments me everyday, it makes me feel a lot better in myself knowing how much he thinks of me. If he stopped it I’d be gutted.

I’ve been with my husband 10 years and he compliments me daily. I’m assuming because you told him you felt insecure, he stopped. My husband always used to buy me flowers and I told him I didn’t really like flowers, so he stopped buying them. They pick up on that and figure why bother. As long as everything else is going great, I wouldn’t worry about it too much or just let him know you’d like to hear some compliments again.

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You told him to stop. Why you mad?

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