Edit: OP is not from the US. Kindergarten is equivalent to daycare where she is fine

My son is starting to hate Kindergarten: Advice?
Hello mamas, I really need your advice and opinions, especially if your kid was in the same situation as mine. So my son is now three years old, he started kindergarten in August. He literally goes like two days, and he gets sick and stays home the rest of the week, which everyone his doctors told me its normal. The thing is until now he’s still crying there, mostly whining and nagging “mama will come, mama will pick me up”… now the crying is less, but he just won’t play or interact there with kids. He’s spending 6 hours just walking or looking at others and like waiting until I come. He’s my only child, and we don’t have a big family with kids here. My family is in another country, and we often fly there, but mostly, it’s just his dad, me, and him. Since he was born, I took him literally two times outside to parks and everywhere to play. But he’s extremely attached to me to the point where he just follows me THE WHOLE TIME at home, won’t play anything alone at all, won’t go to his room and play alone, and our apartment is like 70m2 !! He’s really smart, he already knows alphabets and numbers in 3 languages, we play lots of games… in the beginning, he was very good he started talking with kids, but they didn’t answer him or didn’t give him attention because they are young. Then he went two times to the other group ( 5 years old kid) because his teacher was not there so he was better with the other teacher and the older kids and when he went back to his group he started crying.m again. Then a new teacher came, and he was good with her, then she got sick, and he was with another one. Then she came back. All this happened in the first month, I think it made him confused and frustrated with all this change, especially that he’s the kid who hates change, he loves routine. He still likes the teacher of the older group, and when she’s next to him, he won’t cry, and he’s better with the older kids because they’re giving him attention, take care more of him. He still likes his new teacher; she’s very nice and sweet. So the problem now is that he doesn’t know how to play with the kids and he stays alone, he follows the teacher. When two groups of kids are together in one room, he starts again to cry because it’s like too much for him. He’s starting to love when they sing and dance. He learned to nap there, we’re starting potty training, and it’s going good, but he won’t play with anyone or with any toy there. He is just standing or sitting and looking. Lots of people are telling me we should talk with the doctor its possible that he has social anxiety because he’s also a picky eater, don’t like his hands dirty, love routine, follows me the whole day, terrible sleeper… and I already made an appointment to talk about it. But I’m so worried about him, and I feel like a shitty mom every time i drive him there, and I don’t know how to help him. Does anyone have any helpful advice? I’m too worried and crying myself every day

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3 years old in kindergarten?

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Sounds like theres something going on at school thats bothering him. Maybe a bully :frowning:

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He’s too young to be in school all those hours that’s probably why.

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Way too young for school. That’s why.

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It’s been a couple of mons so if there is no improvement, talk to his Dr abt a therapist that can help him.
Get involved in a few local mom groups bc there’s moms who are local and can do play dates. I’d start one on one for a while ans work up in numbers. Make sure you attend every bday party you can and have one inviting the same kids from school.
It’ll take time but he can work through this with the right tools. :heart:

Never heard of a 3 year old being in KG…

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Separation anxiety it does happen he will eventually stop but why is your child in kindergarten at 3 my kids went to preschool and then kindergarten at age 5

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3 is to young for kinder. Kinder doesn’t start till 5yr

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3 in Kindergarten? My daughter teaches Kindergarten & there’s no way!!!

I swear Pre-K was four and Kindergarten was five? My grandson is 5 1/2 in Kindergarten. Social anxiety is a definite possibility. He also seems to show signs of being on the spectrum, but that could be because of the anxiety. He needs to be socially integrated. From what I’m reading, he rarely is around anyone else. Talk to the Dr and start taking him out places with other kids and people.

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My daughter was an only child I put her in daycare at an early age which helped but maybe u could do a play and read time at a library that u stay with him I wish I could be of more help

My kids started at 3. Just give it time. He’ll adjust

Let’s just clarify what country you’re from bc in the USA children must turn 5 by a certain date when starting kindergarten quite literally if the birthday falls after a certain point of the school year you have to wait another year.

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He may be too young for that kind of environment. But try and get him some interaction with kids outside of school. Maybe Tinkergarden or something like that.

Do u mean preschool? Cause most kindergartens don’t start until they are 5-6 years old… my son started preschool at the age of 3 he had a hard time at first but he finally started liking it he is on his 2nd year of preschool right now

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normally kids don’t start school until they are 4 and already potty trained. He’s probaby over welmed, and is a mommy baby. He’s used to you always around. He may have to just start next year.

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Whoa my son was 5 when he started kindergarten and I now think he was too young. Perhaps less school and more home time.

3 years old needs to be with his father or !mother boys more then girls.

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If nursery is your kindergarden then when my daughter started nursery at two she done two five hour days and she hated it for the longest time :pensive: she’s now three nearly four and goes four times for three hours a week and she loves it :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: has in her words her school shoes and normal shoes :slight_smile: hang in there he’ll get used to it x