Every time my daughter comes home from her dads, she is sick and he won't help with medical bills: Advice?

My ex-husband and I share custody of our 2-year-old daughter. He has visitation 1 to 2 weeks every month (we alternate time per month). We live 6 hours from each other in different states. My ex-husband pays child support, but in return, I supply diapers, clothes, shoes, and maintain her health insurance. Well, for the past six months, every single time she comes home, she’s sick. It started as a simple cold, then came ear infections, pink eye, croup, etc. Every single time she came home. She’s been in the ER once and urgent care at least four times. We have spent $460 in the past two months because of shes constantly sick. Not to mention that she also gets our ten-month-old daughter sick and has to be seen too. Yesterday, my ex took her to urgent care because she was throwing up and running a fever. She has croup! She comes home in 2 days, and now I have to worry about my youngest catching it. My husband and I are drowning in all these medical bills, and I do use child support to cover some of it, but he still expects me to send diapers, pull ups, and clothes to his house every month. He refuses to take secondary insurance out for her because he doesn’t want to pay for her while she’s there, which I think is right! If she’s constantly getting sick there, then she should have a doctor there to see her. I don’t know why she keeps getting sick. It’s not the weather because our weather is the same. I put her on vitamins, but I don’t know if he gives them to her. I’m just so tired of her being sick. It’s every single month she has something. Now that its flu season, I’m extremely worried. She can’t get the flu shot if she’s sick, and I’m not sending her back without it. What can I do? I’ve really reached my breaking point, and I’m thinking of going back to court. I know kids get sick, but not every single month. Something isn’t right.

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Take him back to court and ask for a split on medical expenses. That’s absolutely reasonable.

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You just have to take it back to court to request a child support increase to help cover them. Just being documentation

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Agree with others take him back to court for split costs iff its that much a burden. Depending on what he actually pays for CS. Kids get sick my daughter stayed sick until she turned 9.

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Split medical but do away with child support if u have her 1/2 & he has 1/2 why the child support

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Agreed take him back to court. Remember to take medical bills with you

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Do you guys live in different climates? Also most of the time when we are sick…and the most contagious we don’t show symptoms for at least 3-5 days.

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Those are common illnesses. If you’re in disagreement, of costs, the only way you can settle is through court.

New germs. It happens :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Some kid’s do get sick ever month. It’s kids. But he should be splitting medical 50/50 no matter who’s she with when sick.

No advice for the $ part of it. But our middle daughter was sixle every month for almost a year with something. We switched doctors and we then got referred to an ENT. They removed her tonsils put tubes in her ears an removed her adenoids. That was 3 years ago and since that time she has not been sick. Maybe talk to her Dr about getting those few things checked.

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He should be supplying for his own home. It shouldn’t be up to you to do it all.

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Back to court with your evidence

When she is with him he should provide her needs also including medical needs. If he has her for half the time which it looks like then he should provide medical coverage also

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Stress can cause children to become ill. Maybe she’s stressed while she’s with her Dad.

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Go back to court and ask for medical expenses as well as his reposiblity to supply her with clothes diapers food ect when he has her. Not unreasonable. Also does he have other children there that are school age this could explain the sickness.

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it falls on both of you if her immune system is so compromised that every month she’s sick.

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Go back to court get things changed medical and pay. Dont send stuff with her its not your responsibility. He needs to thats his daughter.

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I wouldn’t keep sending her

I agree. Go back to court, keep a written record of when she is there, how long, sick record of what and when, collect the bills for the records and how much it costs so you can see the pattern of illness and the times you ask him for help. He can explain it to the court. The lawyer will love the record keeping. My husband’s ex let his boy stay for a year and still expected child support for that time. I just handed it over to the lawyer. It was dropped immediately because the records indicated she owed him money. She was supposed to pay some bills when they parted, she didnt,we paid them anyway. Case closed.

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