Everyone tells me my husband is emotionally abusive: Thoughts?

So my question is, what do you do when everyone around you sees my husband is emotionally abusive. And what I mean about is I ask a simple question, and he snaps saying I don’t ask stupid questions or yells at you cause you didn’t get one thing done. Mind you have a ten-month-old daughter and work full time, he does go to school Monday thru Thursday and works Friday Saturday and Sunday. But it seems like he gets done with classes early and all he wants to do is play video games. Sorry this is all over the place right now I’m not okay, and I need help.

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Sounds abusive. Seek counseling!

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Counseling for sure! I am so sorry

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Sounds like you need a good lawyer to file for divorce… you don’t deserve to be treated like that and should leave because yes that is emotional abuse and will not get better

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Yes that’s emotional abuse. A significant other isn’t a punching bag no matter how stressed you are

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Sorry but… this IS abuse and one day, it could turn into PHYSICAL abuse if you don’t take action. This isn’t okay!

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That’s emotional abuse.

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That’s abuse you are not a door mat

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You don’t go to couples counseling for abuse. You get the fuck out. Period.

Leave, it won’t get better, he won’t change.

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That’s definitely emotional abuse.

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if “everyone” is telling you the same thing then typically it’s true (even if you dont see it yourself) … time to go

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When he says these things, does it hurt you? Does it make you feel like you’re doing something wrong?
If yes, then yes.

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Im sorry but I dont know… should you have to go to counseling for respect? Why are they with you to talk to you like that that’s the point of sharing your life your with them to be happy and enhance your life not feel abused and treated with disrespect

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It does sound like it. I see that you don’t see it yet. I also hear you excusing his behavior. I don’t think you are near being ready to leave, though you should. I would definitely seek counseling, let them help you sort through it, see things clearly, and move forward.

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That’s emotional abuse he sounds like a narsasist making you hold yourself to a standard to get this and that done but when he has extra time he doesn’t try to do the same

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Not enough info here to go on. There’s intentional emotional abuse and then there’s projection of their own pain unintentionally.

You…move out and get a divorce

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Yes. You don’t deserve to be treated that way

I was in this position but everyone around me was saying I was too sensitive. I stayed way too long & was forced into DV counseling which taught me what emotional abuse is. Minimizing, gaslighting etc. My advise is to leave. Find a DV counselor. They try to work with him too. Then go from there.

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