Has anyone successfully Co parented with the other parent of their child after separating without involving the court? My child’s father and I aren’t married, but I’m planning on leaving him as it is something a long time coming (according to him). We aren’t officially separated yet. He claims I’ll be able to see our child every day, and doesn’t want to involve the courts, but doesn’t want to oblige putting a schedule into writing and signing it for me.
And if you just up and move he can say you abandoned your son and get full custody and your stuck paying child support. Can say he will do this, but not having any courts involvement leaves a lot to chance. Call a lawyer and trust your gut!
I do it and it’s easy for me. We have a schedule but it isn’t always followed, especially during the summer.
I’ve co parented with my sons dad for 2 years successfully without the courts. We agreed everything verbally. We have 50/50 custody that we agreed on and we are both very flexible with each other’s schedule. What we do have is a notarized patenting plan that states we will stay flexible, stay 50/50, and pay 50/50 for school, sports, and all extra curricular stuff. We still fight and argue but you guys both need to make sure to not sure the child against each other no matter what. That’s how things get ugly. It’s not about you or the dad, it’s about the child. It’s doable as long as you both understand that it’s about the child
“You’ll be able to see our child daily…”? I hope you don’t intend on just leaving the baby with the dad because then you’ll be put on child support. Sounds to be like the dad wants to end up eventually getting full custody
Court is for everyones safety. It only turns ugly when someone goes against what’s agreed upon
He claims you’ll see your child every day? Why would you be leaving your child behind?
You need to go to court to protect yourself and your child. Unless there is something from the courts, there’s nothing stopping him from taking your child and moving away from you. A court ordered parenting plan would prevent the child from being withheld from the other parent and stop either parent from taking the child and leaving. It would also give everyone a set schedule to follow.
Nope if he won’t sign paperwork, he is planning on screwing you.
Put it into writing.
Go threw the courts to protect you and your son.
Yes but have to have the right parenting partner!
If he doe’t want to go to court then go to mediation and make an agreement. If you leave your child with no written agreement then he has control of you seeing your child and may not allow you to when you can so it is best to get it in writing.
Why does it sound like he is going to have them full time and you’re just going to be seeing them?
Why would he have baby instead of visiting? By the sound of it though he’s going to screw you.
If he’s not willing to write and sign a schedule with you, go thru court .!
First of all, why is he saying “you’ll be able to see the child every day” ??? Would the child not being staying with you full time and then going to visit him? Bc that’s how it would be in my case I wouldnt ever leave without my children.
GO TO COURT… AND TAKE THE KID WITH YOU WHEN YOU LEAVE… unless you want dad to have custody… if you leave the kid… dad can go for full custody because you abandoned your child.
if you leave without the child, he could claim you abandoned them, DO NOT leave without your child
My daughter and my grandsons dad have done well with out the courts, but, on the other hand I had a friend who’s grandbabies dad took the kids and it was 3 yrs before the mom saw them again. Police said he was the kids parent to and could just up and take them
Protect your child and yourself and get something in writing from the courts that primary placement is with you.