Has Anyone Done 50/50, Week-On/Week-Off Co-Parenting with a 5-MO Baby? Any Advice for Me?

QUESTION:

"Does anybody do 50/50 co-parenting where the child stays at one parent’s house for a week, then goes to the other parent’s house for a week?

The baby is five months old. 2.5 hours in between the two houses, which are in different states."

RELATED QUESTION: Has anyone co-parented without getting the courts involved?

TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“That’s too long for the baby to be away from you! Maybe if the child was older but even then it’s too hard. I would never put my kids through that.”

“I think that’s too rough for a 5-month-old. They need their mom. That’s why other countries have maternity leave for up to a year. Babies need their mom. Maybe every other weekend she can go to her dad’s for 3 days? And he can come visit her at any time. I know that may be hard on him but this is what’s best for the baby since she’s so young. When she’s older then it can be reevaluated.”

“We did it… the kids hated it!!! They said they felt like they were living out of backpacks…”

“That seems young for alternating weeks.”

“This is what we do but it wasn’t established until the kids were toddlers. Our papers have different guidelines and times and days for visitation for babies up to 18 months. I don’t think a judge will let a child that small do week here a week there.”

“I have done this for the past 10 years, my son absolutely loves it, the only difference is my son’s father lives in a different town. As your child gets older though, I’m assuming it would change due to schooling.”

“We do a 2-2-3 schedule. I nixed the one week on one week off right away. Dad gets every other weekend and 2 days during the week for our 3-and-a-half-year-old. That just started when he turned 3. But we also live maybe a mile away from each other so if he has to work it’s easy to drop off to me.”

“Sooner baby is used to it, the better. However! What happens when they are in school? Not a reasonable arrangement…”

“The child is very young for that. I personally wouldn’t do it unless the child asked to do it. Then any sign of not working I’d stop it. It’s about the child. They aren’t like toys to be shared around. Good luck.”

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I have done this for the last 5 years.

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It’s hard on the kids. But they get equal time with us.

We did it…the kids hated it!!! They said they felt like they were living out of backpacks…

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It will be hard when school starts if you’re considering long term.

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We are in Michigan and live within 15 minutes of eachother. They go to their moms mon tue…dads wed thur then alternate the fri sat sun. They are 8 & 5 though. I can’t imagine going without seeing my 5 month old for a week straight, but with the distance, I don’t know how many options you’d have. :tired_face:

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I do it. My daughter is just turned three. She loves the time she spends with her daddy and loves his girlfriend. It can be hard different rules for different households but if you communicate well then that shouldn’t be a issue.

That’s too long for the baby to be away from you! Maybe if the child was older but even then it’s too hard. I would never put my kids through that

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This is what we do but it wasn’t established until the kids were toddlers. Our papers have different guidelines and times and days for visitation for babies up to 18 months. I don’t think a judge will let a child that small do week here a week there.

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That seems young for alternating weeks

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I have done this for the past 10 years, my son absolutely loves it, only difference is my sons father lives in a different town. As your child gets older though, I’m assuming it would change due to schooling.

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My daughter did horrible with the 2-2-3 schedule and stared doing terrible in school. We switched to the week on week off and it’s a complete 360 with her and she loves it. She is 7 in January. Just stated this in 2019

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Yes we do it he goes Monday- Monday and we get him for the night on Thursday of the week he’s at the other parents house

The child is very young for that. I personally wouldnt do it unless the child asked to do it. Then any sign of not working I’d stop it. It’s about the child. They arnt like toys to be shared around…
Good luck

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My son and his ex do it!

If it’s doable definitely do it. My kids don’t get to see their dad very often maybe once a month or 2 months he is otr trucker. It is really rough on them. I wish he was local just for the kids sake. I would definitely do 50/50 parenting. My bonus kids we get them 3-4 nights a week. It is a little hard with the school going back to 5 days. (Last school year my fiance worked by their school) We plan to move to their school district as soon as we get our other house is ready. We hate the town, but love them more. 50/50 parenting can be amazing if all parties involved are willing to put in the work.

Too much for such a young baby

I’m in Alabama and they wouldn’t start over night visits until my son turned 3

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I think that’s too rough for a 5 month old. They need their mom. That’s why other countries have maternity leave for up to a year. Babies need their mom. Maybe every other weekend she can go to her dads for 3 days? and he can come visit her at any time. I know that may be hard on him but this is what’s best for the baby since she’s so young. When she’s older then it can be reevaluated.

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Here the court does not want children under two away from the primary caretaker for longer than 24 hours

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