Has anyone had an absent parent show up after 5 years wanting visitation?

Has anyone had an absent parent show up after five years wanting visitation? My son is six years old and has not seen his father in 5 years. His father has had no contact whatsoever. Out of the blue, he messaged me and asked for visitation. If I don’t agree, he is taking me to court. What will the courts do in regards to him seeing him? My son has no clue who he is.

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I would contact a lawyer…if he hasn’t seen his son in 5yrs there’s a strong chance he wont even know who he is

The courts will have him prove paternity and could very well initiate visitation. I would contact a lawyer

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Depending on your state, they will probably require visitation. I would tell him that he needs to come meet your child and start off slowly so the child can get to know him. But in the mean time I would talk to a lawyer in your area that knows the laws and rules. I wouldn’t out right say no, that could bite you in the butt if you end up in court.

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Have him do supervised visitation tell him y’all can meet somewhere and he can see his kid there obviously u can’t leave kid alone w him cause he doesn’t know him and will feel uncomfortable and see maybe where and how that goes

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Hes a stranger at that point fuck him. Make him jump threw the loops

Do supervised visits through the courts the dad might not even show up

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Pending on your state he can be charged with child abandonment in Tennessee you can be charged after 4 months of no contact. Call a lawyer

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Let him take you to court. He isnt going to look good to anyone since he wasnt around at all.

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Yes and it’s terrible now because he will get it through court but be careful he doesn’t back stab you pm me for more I just went through this

If he hasn’t seen his kid or paid for him in five years you can file for abandonment. If your against him seeing your son. Get a lawyer. However if he was previously an addict and has been clean for a time that reason alone will give him the right to see him. File for child support. Serve him. :woman_shrugging:. Who knows maybe he’s serious

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Depending on the state if you dont want him around your son, he’s been absent this whole time and obviously cares nothing for him. So terminate his rights. He’s been gone long enough that your son really has no idea who that man is so 🤷

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Let him take you to court.
If his own son doesn’t recognize him than that will be a good start

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Long drawn out process where dad will get supervised visits then slowly to overnights. Get a lawyer if you can.

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Tell him go ahead, thats probably a scare tactic, tell him you’ll see him in court, and be prepared to pay 5 years of back child support. Bet you’ll never hear from him again, unless he wins the lottery.:rofl:

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Having a father is essential in every child’s life. My grandson is always asking if he could adopt a dad. He dad violently beat him at 15 months and has no contact with him even me asking can you just message him good morning or good night. I dont want him to have contact but my grandson does. I feel its ok cause I live in CA. And he lives in Michigan

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In Texas it’s called reckless abandonment after a year & a half. If you live here, no worries. He gave up his rights

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He can be n certain cases be charged with abandonment

Contact a lawyer for YOUR state. You will not get a legal answer on facebook. Laws very as well as situations.

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Maybe start out with supervised visits or facetiming. If he is serious about wanting to be in the child’s life, let it happen. Ik its not ideal, but it could be good for everyone. People and circumstances change. This situation doesn’t have to turn into anything hateful or unproductive for anyone involved.