Has anyone had the father denied custody?

Has anyone been in an abusive relationship where the father was denied custody? I hear that it rarely happens, and I want to see if that’s true. If the judge did deny visitations to the father, what was the reason/circumstances behind it? Trying to protect my baby and not having much luck.

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Yes I have and later I took all rights away from him in court n hes rights are now signed off

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My son’s father was physically violent towards me while I was pregnant. Because of that he isnt allowed visitation or anything until he finishes a batter’s treatment program and petitions the court to change their decision

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My friend is going thru a bad divorce. Husband was abusive towards her in an argument in front of the kids. She got an emergency protective order against him and he wasn’t allowed near her, the house or the kids or their school until they went to court (2 weeks) after that they worked out a deal, where he could see the kids every other weekend but he wasn’t allowed at their house any longer and wasn’t allowed to contact her unless it was in regards to the kids. I think he would have been denied custody unless supervised if she hadn’t agreed to it in mediation before court.

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Generally in that situation if visitation is allowed it’s required to be supervised.

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I am disabled because of my ex-husband beating me, he also abuses the children he got full custody while I ended up having supervised visitation because of his lies being believed and I was made out to be the liar. For for a restraining order for you and your child that will help, you can also ask for supervised visitation.

My kids father choked me infront of our daughter who was a year old at the time and he still gets visitation he does have to take a class tho

Custody denied yes. Visitation not often. My ex has visitation but no custody.

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During one of the violent situations, has the cops been called and pictures taken? I kniw if he’s charged with assault and battery, you can push the issue of him not getting custody due to being scared for your life as well as for your child’s life. You can also push to have supervised visitation if the court urges the father to still have visitation with the child. I was in an abusive relationship with my children’s father, we were married. I got physical and sole custody where he had supervised visitation yet, he doesnt take on his responsibilities for his 2 kids. I had him served while in jail the divorce papers

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I have 100 percent physical and legal custody of both of my daughters. But the father has supervised visits.

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I filed an RO when my son was 2 months. That determined I had full custody and he would have been granted supervised visits if he went through drug and anger classes. He never took those classes. My son is going to be six next month, he hasn’t seen him since he was 2 months. Courts also granted me the ability to move. I met my now husband and he was able to adopt our son Christmas 2017.

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Witnesses, police called, restraining order (emergency or otherwise): document, document, document. Talk to friends about what he did and record the conversation, have them testify for you & against him in court. Go to the doc/clinic/hospital & have them document any injuries. Ask fellow workers to testify about your injuries or talking about your abuse if appropriate. Get kids to talk to a therapist who will testify for them. Document as much as you can so it’s not a “he said, she said” situation.

God forbid your kids are being abused, but if so, get the school to help, though check if CPS will hold you responsible for keeping them in an abusive situation unless you can prove you are actively trying to get out.

Talk to a lawyer & ask what steps to take in your state to keep dad away. Supervised visits AT THE COURTHOUSE is best option. Don’t let him ask for his mom to be the one supervising at his place, for example.

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My ex demonstrated abuse in court. Not physical but emotional & financial. I had help from a friend. But I was given sole custody. I make all decisions. He was granted 1 phone call a week at my & my children’s disgression. He gave up after 12 weeks. Now he has none. Rights aren’t completely gone as he can bring me back to court. But he won’t get far.

Question for OP. Is baby born yet? If not don’t put him on the bc. Move away from him before baby is born. Preferably out of state. If you’re not married you will have sole custody until/unless he files for visitation. He has to do where you live. Document/record every conservation, keep every text, file police reports, obtain a PPO (tell them you want your address kept confidential). The longer the paper trail the better. Get into counseling through a DV agency. They will help you deal with the emotional affects of the abuse as well legal aspects. If he’s not on the BC don’t tell your counselor his name. Refer to as a different name or initial. They will contact him without you knowing. I thought it was against HIPPA. But it’s not if they’re trying to get him to work their program with you.

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Usually the judge grants custody to whoever the child is already living with

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I had a wife that wanted to place our kids in Forster care.because she didt want me to have them.so it’s not just father’s.mother do it to.just saying. Fathers are great parents to.for all good dads.

By the way it didt happen I got my babys they are all grown up and have good lifes

Is this a wind up? Do you know how many mums are making false allegations of abuse to gain the upper hand in family court and the dads and children are suffering because they are being kept apart. Its very common so i dont know where you get the idea dads are hardly ever stopped from seeing their kids

My ex beat the crap out my while holding my daughter and the judge gave him joint custody. It depends on the judge. Some dont equate spousal abuse as enough to deny custody

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But I actually had a RO, police reports, pictures and witnesses.

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