Has anyone stayed after their partner cheated?

Has anyone stayed with someone that cheated? I just found out yesterday my boyfriend of 6 years has been cheating on me… now, of course, he’s sobbing begging for me back. We just bought a house together and have a daughter… as much as I know I should leave… I don’t think I can I never in a million years saw this coming.

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Once a cheater always a cheater! Are you always going to wonder what he’s doing? Do you want your child to think this is acceptable?

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Once a cheat always a cheat. Find better for you and your daughter.

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Yep and we are over 21 yrs strong together. If BOTH people truly WANT it, you can beat it…you can forgive but never forget.

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We separated for about a year and a half, but got back together and things have been better than they were before.

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They will do whatever because they got caught but it will happen again and that trust is hard to get back. I stayed and after I became obsessed with knowing what he was doing because it hurt me. Fast forward years later I married someone else. Found out he cheated and instantly divorced. You are worth more than that.

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Run and dont look back.

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Yes I did but there was a consequence to it … then he never did it again lol :laughing: my husband of 10 years now .

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You are the only one who can make that decision. If you decide to stay, you are teaching him how to treat you. He will think he got away with it and unfortunately it will probably happen again but not always. If you decide to stay you have to completely let it go. You cannot throw it in his face every time you’re mad. You will both have to work on your relationship for a long time. It’s very hard to rebuild trust.

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I couldn’t forgive or forget

Leave. He’ll do it again.

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I stayed with mine for almost 7 years and I can say that it probably will happen again. He may say it won’t but it will. Leave now because it will just leave you with low self-esteem and you don’t deserve that. Someone guy out there will love you the RIGHT way. It’s not worth staying at all

Follow your heart hun.

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I did. And we’ve been together 15 years now

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Its so hard mama i was in a thirteen year relashionship and had 2 babies i stood i felt empty it never was the same after i left i tried to make it work but i just hated him so my advice to u is if u stay remember u always resent him. I think u really know what to do in ur heart

Leave. And never look back.

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I’m going through the same thing except I found out last week :weary:

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That’s up to you. Do you want him to fix this and earn trust, are you willing to help and trust again? Yes, he cheated, but unfortunately it takes two to make it work now.

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I stayed, twice…he did it a third time. Leave. If he was sorry he wouldn’t have lied and cheated to begin with.

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You go absolutely nowhere. You kick HIM out and keep the house for stability for your daughter. When you are ordered child support you can use it to help pay for the house. If you stay with him you are telling him that you are fine with being cheated on and that you will allow it to continue and it will definitely continue. :woman_shrugging:

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