How can break the news of my pregnancy to my husbands ex?

I never told my ex wasnt his business and then his gf had my daughter tell me that they are having a baby and got mad because I said that was good for them and congrats with a smile ,she wanted the opposite reaction and has since banned my ex from communicating with me soooo…I say do as you feel and just accept whatever answer as an answer nothing to hold onto at the end of the day it’s about y’all and y’alls happiness

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I didn’t even care what she thought TBH sounds harsh I know. It’s not her business as long as he continues to be a good dad and you a good stepmum there should be no resentment or jealously.
I new baby should also push them thoughs that they are getting back together away. Clearly not happening xx

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I’m someone who is in this situation. My ex and his new wife is having a new baby. They didn’t tell me nor do I think it is any of my business. But it would of been nice to know because when my kids came back from the weekend visitation they act like they would nervous and I knew they didn’t want to say anything. So I finally call and ask what was going on the kids and why are they acting differently. So my advice do what best for kids. The kids might appreciate if you guys show you can communicate. It will affect the kids.

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I wouldn’t even say anything. They’ll find out eventually :woman_shrugging:t3: it’s not like it’s telling family or someone special

I think it’s your partner job to tell his ex and yours to tell your ex.

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I wouldn’t say anything because it’s not their business :woman_shrugging:

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I just text and said just to let you know “name” is going to be a big brother. That’s it haha

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I’m gonna go against what half of these people are saying. I think effective communication is important. The child needs a support system and everyone to be in the know. Just because she has hopes that they’ll get back together doesn’t mean he’s feeding it. It just means well…maybe he was her great love and she’s having a hard time getting past it. I would say sit down with the ex and the child and explain the changes that are coming and how your focus on the existing child(ren) will be unchanged.

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You address your ex, he addresses his ex.

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We didn’t tell my husbands ex, my bonus sons did, we kept them super involved, then she freaked out on him and told him hes a piss poor dad and that she can’t trust him and to get a dna test. It totally depends on the person.

He should text her and say that she shouldn’t hear it from anyone else that you are excepting a baby together

I wouldnt tell her anything its not her business i dint tell my ex husband he saw it himself lol

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Lol why would you even have to say anything at all. That’s not something to worry about it’s not their business at all.

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Didn’t even tell my own ex he just kinda noticed after a few months lol with the kids just tell them the good news there going to be big siblings and let them tell their mum, she doesn’t need to be informed of your pregnancy by you its nothing to do with her

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Invite them to the baby shower :rofl::woman_shrugging:

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Not her business …nor your place to tell her.

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Personally I would just tell her “We just wanted to inform you before we told the kids we are expecting. We know they may have mixed emotions about this so we wanted you to be aware of the situation so we can openly address their feelings as they occure as a co-parenting unit”

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My husband’s ex told him to stop making babies after she found out we’re on our baby no. 2. I didn’t care and just gave birth to our 3rd and im the first in the family to give them a girl!lol! She was really pissed. :wink:

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None of her business and it won’t change anything for the other kids her reaction is her own business don’t see why it should be a concern sorry!!

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All I can say is good luck but remember it’s not about them it’s about you guys. The more you involve them the more they will think they can control and turn their child and his family against you as she’s first baby mama hahahaah “Experience”

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