How can break the news of my pregnancy to my husbands ex?

My kids told me. But I also didn’t make it a big deal or think he should’ve told me either. And the day after gave birth, I took our boys to the hospital to meet their little sister

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Why would their still be “hope”?

They’re still banging.

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Not necessary to tell them at all. We told my step daughter right before announcing it on Facebook and the rest of our family/friends at about 8-9 weeks. She was 5 at the time and excited so she told her mom and that’s how she found out. You don’t owe it to an ex! They’ll find out

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I’m so glad that me and my ex have an open communication relationship. We talk all the time so it wouldn’t be like a secret :woman_shrugging: He would probably tell me to make sure i go to all my appointments and to take care of myself as he respects me being the mother to our children as well as i respect him being their father. Not sure when communication with other adults became difficult

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I’m always supportive of co-parenting, and communication. To have a successful co-parenting relationship communication is a must. First you should tell the children, and celebrate like a family. And when pick up happens you and your SO address the ex together explaining that you guys are having a baby, but you want to clear up any worries the older children will be left out. It’s also super important that you keep the older kids involved, especially since they aren’t in the home full time. If the ex still has hopes of them fixing things then HE needs to clear that up, not you. It could go either way, but if she attempts to keep the child away from you guys there are legal repercussions. You’re a blended family. But if she has hopes of fixing things it could be a struggle. It was for us with my oldest daughters father. He isn’t actively involved and still threw a fit, and didn’t talk to his daughter for a year. It really just depends on the person. All you can do is be upfront, involve the kids, and enjoy your time has a family. Best of luck mama!

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I think it’s a great start that you guys are respectful and mature enough to consider other people and feelings involved. And I surely hope that communication honesty and respect continues to improve . That will be beneficial and nurturing to all involved . All you can do is try your best !!! Good luck to everyone.

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Ok so here is my perspective . As a mother with 3 different fathers . Which I had long periods between . Anyway we are all supportive of one another . I am supportive of my oldest child’s step mom and dad . Those kids are my sons brothers and sisters . There important to him so there important to me . Not that the need to tell me anything . But I am about to have a baby and they offered to take my son and my other daughter Wich is not there’s on a play date . Also my daughters father when I give birth in may will keep her that month and send me child support even tho he has her cause I’ll have a new born and a c-section. He just won’t pay the month before or maybe after depending on how that works . The last 2 are with the same person. And all I got to say is your all a team with your children involved . The reality is mom may get jealous and may whisper things in the kids ear . It could happen. But reality is if the child is semi jealous on her own that’s so normal . But you work with her and spend time with her and let her dad and her go off and do stuff alone as well . Been there done that. But your all a team . That’s they way everyone should try and co-parent . What affects one of there kids affects all there kids and there should be healthy communication between you all .

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I told my ex, he told his ex

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When the baby bump is noticeable, show it off … let the surprise come naturally and the conversation between all parties will come naturally … Good luck hopefully it’s easier than your thinking it will be

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You don’t need to :woman_shrugging:t2:

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He should tell her. If that’s even needed. Why would you guys need to tell her? Just live your lives and be happy.

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Um, well when I made the announcement, they asked how the surgery went for my gallbladder removal surgery… I told them it was rescheduled for 8 weeks because then it was safer for the baby that I had just found out I was pregnant with… Just go for it. :rofl::joy:

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Ummm nothing, its not her business!! You guys are married…not you 3 :joy::joy::woman_shrugging:

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We had my bonus son on the weekend, and then when we dropped him off at his moms, we just told her we are pregnant. There’s no much they can really do :woman_shrugging:t2:

Who gives a F what she thinks.

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Why would you have to tell them?

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Ummmmm why is it either ex’s business, people are so weird. Kids or no kids these people aren’t a priority nor is it their business as to what happens in your married life.

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I did tell my Ex wasn’t really there direct business, the kids new and if the kids mentioned it to said Ex then that’s that or when they see that I started showing they took a hint I don’t see why you would have to let them know your actually pregnant.

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It’s none of her business and you don’t need her approval or anything. Tell all the kids and if she tries to make something of it ignore her. Neither you nor your husband have to answer to her. She will try to turn the kids against you 2 but just include them in things having to do with the baby. Tell them how excited you both are that the baby will have them as siblings etc…

I have a feeling a lot of these girls don’t play well with others . If your not prepared to be a real women and take your role as a member of the blended family seriously . Then don’t get involved with a man who has kids already because no matter how you feel those mothers are just as important as those step mothers . It goes both ways .

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