How can I ask my husband to leave money for me when he goes to work?

How do I go about asking my husband to leave me money during the week while he’s at work? I have worked my whole life and have no problem working, in fact, I offered to let my husband be a stay at home dad just so I could work, however, he was really insistent that I stay home with our now 3-month-old son. It does not bother me that he asked me to do this however I am having problems feeling uncomfortable being home alone 5 days a week without a single dollar to myself. (My husband buys everything I need and we have enough money to do so, money isn’t really an issue) I don’t want to sound selfish or like I’m entitled to his money but it would be nice if I didn’t have to ask for every single thing and go through him for everything. I just want to be able to buy things myself, even something as small as going to get a pop and paying for it myself without asking anybody. Am I wrong for asking him to leave me money? If not, how should I approach asking him to do this?

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Just say honey I would like to go out with the baby during the week and I want pocket money

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Um what? That’s YOUR money, not just his. You shouldn’t have to ask. Run.

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Just tell him. No need to ask. It’s your money too. Tell him you’d like to have some money in case you go out of the house

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Maybe get a joint bank account so that you can have your own debit card?

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Get a debit to your joint checking acct?

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You don’t have a joint checking account

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You just need to tell him …

Just go to him and say hey I was wanting to do this this week but I really don’t have enough money could you leave some so we can get out of the house for a while?

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Say “Hey, leave me money for the week.” :woman_shrugging:

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Maybe get a shared account on the side he can put money into and you can both have cards to it

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I’m a sahm, we have a joint checking account. I refuse to have to “ask” my husband for money, in my book were a team and I should not have to ask permission to buy things with our money. Yes he may have earned it but if he wants to get technical I’d be giving him a childcare, cleaning etc bill

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Get a joint account with your own debit card.

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Tell him how much money you need him to give you every week. If he’s not a controlling asshole, he should hand it right over. This isn’t 1950.

Just ask. I ask my husband when he has money and same thing for him when I have money
There shouldn’t be any reason he can’t leave you some

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No you need to come to some agreement about you having your own money a certain amount a week x

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Tell hubby baby needs diapers, buy a small pack and pocket the change that way your able to freely buy yourself a pop. Next electric/water bill tell him it’s a bit over the amount due and keep saving money like that

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when just one person works, not any extra-get you job and let him keep baby while you work in the evenings-that way would not have to have a sitter

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Or get a credit card in your name?

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Hi baby, how was your day? I was just thinking… cooped up with a baby all the time, I’d like to get out of the house and go get a pop at the corner store or an ice cream sometimes. Maybe I can get some cash handy for me if I ever need? Please love you!! Lol

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