How can I be a more patient mom?

Sometimes I feel like a terrible momma. I have two, two years apart. 6&4.They are super loud to have emotional problems. I don’t feel patient enough. I don’t spank/ or trip out. I’m just quick to tell them to stop or settle down or stop doing that. How do I be more patient and understanding? Like they see a therapist, and she gives me advice, and I know that I need to think differently. But how do I remember to be the super patient, loving mom IN THE MOMENT? Please no judgment, I really am trying my best and struggling.

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The “guilt chapter” in What To Expect When You’re Expecting I totally missed. I have a 3 & 5 year old. Following for the secret, although I don’t think there is one. Hugs and love to you Mama. You’re doing you’re best and that’s all we can do :heart:

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Take 6 seconds, use 2 to be silent, and 4 to take deep breaths- then react.
Remember that they’re just inexperienced people trying to learn how to be better people. You can do this :grin:

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I’m following this too! I have a 4&5 year old and o feel I do the same too. They just constantly fight all the time! Sending hugs! It’s hard work! Xx

Same. I got three 9,8,6. And all they do is fight. And all I do is say stop, quit, don’t. All DAY LONG

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Smoke pot before bed :wink:

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Read the book yell less love more. It really helped me so much

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Girl, same. My eldest has adhd and an emotional disorder. He gets sad and upset quickly. My youngest has autism and is sensory sensitive and self-harms. When they fight, I have to stop and remind myself they didnt ask to be born the way they are. It helps to have someone give you a break. It also helps to be spiritual. Whatever that means to you. I read my bible or listen to my churchs livefeed on YouTube.

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Count to 5 find your horizon breath then speak. Works for me…sometimes i go up to 10 and back down again :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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Maybe seek a therapist for yourself. In my case I was battling depression and anxiety and untreated I was short with my kid and got frustrated easily.

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Also practice some self forgiveness. My 9 year old has multiple issues and her 16 year old sister has emotional challenges. I am more patient then I used to be and it took a lot of practice. Sometime I still fail and loose it…then I forgive myself for being human, hug my kids and apologize if necessary and don’t drag the guilt with me.

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Following because that mom guilt is real, and I get it :heart:

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More self love. Patience stems from stress, and if you’re stressed out because of your kids, you might need to take some time for yourself.

Count to 10 & then 10 again.

Try switching off, but not to the point of not knowing what they are doing…I have 5 kids, 10, 9, 7, 4 and 2… imagine how much patience I need, lol… When they start playing, I switch off, I will still hear when they need me, but them being loud doesn’t bother me as much… it does het easier as they get older, promise

You’re OBVIOUSLY doing the right thing by your kids. It’s okay to lose patience with the kids here and there- you’re human. The fact that you are seeking help on improving your parenting skills to love them in the moment is proof that you’re parenting right! Way to go mom!

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Lol u should come to my house. I give 1 warning them I put my kids in time out

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It’s just part of it! Just accept your parenting style, and keep it up!

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Are you happy and taking care of yourself? Exercising or doing something that helps you with stress relief. I have found if I am not taking care of myself I am often not being the best mama I can be and I am often more impatient. You are a good mom because you care and you are trying. Give yourself some credit. :heart:

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I have 4, ages 9,5,3,1. They are only loud right before dinner and for an hour after. I usually go to my room where it’s quiet and take a couple deep breaths to reset my patience meter. I have also made the rule that they can be as loud as they want, but only for 1 hour after dinner. If they are loud at any other time, they don’t get their loud time that day. It has worked for me so far.