How can I break my child of lying?

Smack. End of. Quickly learn lying causes consequences. :man_shrugging:t2:

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I explained to my kids, that there is a difference from a good"story" and saying something that is not true, not real. And gave some examples that they would understand. Pull her up when yo u suspect a lie, and say is this a good story or is it the truth. Don’t get angry, you probably need to reinforce it from time to time.

Sit her down by herself and make her look at you when you are speaking, explain to her that is is very ugly to lie and if you are a religious person tell her jesus doesnt like it when people lie, also tell her that if she lies it will just get her in more trouble than telling the truth will. You will have to keep reminding her all the time also. And when she lies discipline her every single time, if shes honest just have a talk with her and tell her what she did wasnt nice or whatever the circumstances is but when she lies put her in time out, take her favorite toy away, or spank her if that’s how you discipline. Everyone disciplines differently and every child s different, I ground mine kids from their favorite things, started out with just one day and now they get a week but they are 12 and almost 10 now, spanking dont work with my youngest but I can tell my oldest I’m gonna spank her and she start crying immediately, it doesnt phase my youngest at all but taking his favorite thing away works everytime. And stay calm during everything

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Maybe she/he doesn’t know what a “lie” is; our youngest didn’t so we had to explain it over and over and over again😖

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I have a strong hatred for lying so I am a bit harsh when it comes to when I catch my kids in a lie, albeit it has only been my 5yr old so far. I tell them “liars go to bad places, and while a lie may not hurt you it can seriously hurt someone else. If you always lie about small things and one day run to me with something big, how will I know to believe you? Lies make it so no one knows to believe your words.”

And this is where the story the boy who cried wolf is useful… you then teach the moral of the story…

It’s a tough one. explaining that nothing good comes from lying and the truth can be really good. But then they start being bluntly honest with everyone and airing everything that happens at home.

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Between the age of 5 and 8 children go through a liar phase. Its development its normal. Tell her about the boy who cried wolf… give her age appropriate examples of how even a small lie can hurt someone…They are seeing what they can get by with. Call her out on her lies and dont accept anything but the truth. Let her know you will hear what she has to say when shes ready to tell the truth, put her in time out while she thinks about that. It will pass.

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I tell my kids they can tell me the truth and get in a little bit of trouble for the thing they did because actions have consequences (and I show them with my fingers a little bit) or a whole lot of trouble for lying about it. ( And use both my arms to show alot) Because then it’s double the trouble. One for doing what you did and one for lying about it. I tell then this while looking them straight in the eyes. I will repeat that until they tell the truth.

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How old is the baby? Sometimes when kids get a new sibling, they’ll take up a bad habit because it gets them attention, even if it is negative, that they feel they lost to the baby. If the baby is still very young, maybe take the time to explain that you still love them equally and assure her that she can get the attention she needs from you, but has to communicate what her needs are rather than getting in troublem

When I was a kid and told a lie my dad always told me its better to tell the truth and deal with the punishment then lie and get in more trouble… Most of the time I got grounded…also tell her the story about the boy who cried wolf

My son is 7 and likes to fib a lot, about everything, even the sky being blue :roll_eyes:. What I’m trying right now is if he tells the truth right away, no punishment. If he lies multiple times but then decides to tell the truth, i thank him for telling me the truth but he will still get a punishment for lying.

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Lying, cursing, being disrespectable to anyone…an ass whooping. I’m old school.

Hot sauce,soap,whoop that ass🤷 take things they love the most.

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My kid did that around the same age as well as stealing from the store makeup or candy mostly. I did the same as a child I’m sure my younger 3 will too. It’s a stage. Keep reminding her that honesty always pays off and show her. When my now 10 yr old lies I just call her out until she admits the truth I don’t spank or ground her unless it’s something major like stealing she did get grounded for. She was also VERY destructive for 1 entire 12 month year I took all her toys she had a bed, dresser, clothes and books as well as coloring and writing stuff. Let me just say she is super respectful of her property and appreciates everything now she doesn’t feel the need to lie anymore either or steal now she asks for stuff she wants and usually we do buy it

Just Lying to her once, will show her how it feels. Keep on tell she stops.

Are you religious at all? Go to church? Lying is a sin. It’s a good lesson.

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I told mine I had hidden cameras that I can check from my cell phone :laughing: so do not lie because I know

It is a bad habit . Good luck ! I have had to deal with this . Not an easy feat . Nothing I did worked .

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