How can I cope with my daughter leaving for college?

My daughter leaves August 17th to go to college. Omg how do I handle it?

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Volunteer helping kids that are less fortunate.

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You remember she’s doing something so amazing for her future :heart_eyes:

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Get new hobbies. Surround urself with kids/animals . Whatever you like. I’m 2 years into my only child leaving the nest and I still feel lost💔

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its time for her to vengure of in her life

Breathe, wish her the best, give her love and support and tell her to have fun, study hard. Then for yourself after a good cry, find stuff to do in your community, maybe be a mentor for a girl who is struggling in high school.

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Cry alot. Write a letter for her to open after you drop her off. First weekend you can…go out and party … you have one crossing the first finish line…

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I cried. Mine left 3 years ago. It was so hard. But, shes doing amazing, has a great group of friends, they are now living in a house instead of a dorm, all working plus school.
Its a huge sense of pride watching her succeed

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I’m right there with you! My baby son goes on Aug 9th. Will be 5 hrs and 2 states away. I broke down Saturday just looking at him. I have no idea how I’m gonna handle this!

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Think of the positive. She is healthy, she’s maturing and she’s learning new things.

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It’s gonna be hard, I won’t lie! When my son left I sat in his room and just cried myself to sleep. This happened several times. Lol But I knew it was him going out there to better himself and make a future for himself and a future family. As long as they’re doing good, happiness is all that’s felt. They will make mistakes like we did, but we as parents can always be there to help them up and cheer them on. Just be proud of how far she’s gotten and how far she will go. No one ever told us that the hardest part of parenting was going to be letting them grow up.

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One day at a time! You have to TRUST that you taught her right from wrong and how to make good decisions! It’s time for you to have faith in yourself!

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Ask her to call often! That helped me.

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It’s a bittersweet time for both of you. She is probably scared as well. This is the beginning of her journey. Make sure you keep looking and traveling yours as well . Life is always changing, find yourself again. Prayers for you both.

My daughter went to boarding school from 6th grade-12th. I didn’t think I would have any issues. But, 8 days after high school graduation she was in a serious car accident. I spent 3 months by her side every single day and night during her rehabilitation. She started college in a wheelchair. The day after I dropped her off at college, my panic attacks started. She graduated college 3 years ago. To this day she contacts me every single day to let me know she is ok.

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I hope you handle it better than I did. I went through a period of time my Mom called “Empty Nest Syndrome”. I sit in my son’s room everyday, for at least an hour, and cried for months. My best advice, KEEP BUSY. Find a hobby, hang out with friends, and don’t text or call him/her several times a day, that annoys them.

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It is one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Leave my firstborn at a college 2 hours away. How could I do that? What if she needed me? I cried like a baby and cried the whole way home. I cried every time she went back to school after a weekend home. But she got her wings and flew! She grew so much that year and it was amazing to watch her turn into this amazing young woman.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t text your child, FaceTime your child, etc. you do what works for you. We FaceTime usually once a week (both of us initiates it) and we text at least once a day. It isn’t to be in her business, but it is a genuine caring call or text. Once in awhile I send goodies from a local bakery to her and her roommate just as a thinking of you.

The second year was much easier but it is still hard. You do what works for child and you momma! You know your child best! Hang in there. It will be tough but you will get through it and she will be amazing!!

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When I dropped my first born in East Lansing at Michigan State, I was very proud. I cried all the 45 minutes home, but she knew right from wrong. She is a lovely, young mother of 2 of my grandchildren.

This is probably the hardest part of motherhood. Letting go…Be proud of yourself, that your daughter feels comfortable enough to move away. You did your job…You created an adult that can fend on their own. You gave her the confidence to go out there. My oldest moved away last October and it was hard not seeing him daily, but he comes to visit when he can. I just keep reminding myself that he is happy and living his own life.
Something you can do to occupy your free time now is find a hobby. Maybe you loved doing something before you had kids, get back to it. I went back to school to become a teacher. I also volunteer for the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. They matched me up with my little who is now 11. It’s not the end of your life as a mom, but a new chapter in your life. Your kiddo will always need you <3

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We bought a cottage and that gave us something different to do. She was about 9 to 10 hours away. We all survived. We had 2 younger boys at home and they kept us busy which helped. Good luck!